He's fine at home but can't get it right at nursery school

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Hi all

My 3 year old boy finally gave potty training a go and honestly , he done a fantastic job. In just 4 days he managed to make it to the toilet every time and moved off the potty because his words "I want to go the same place mummy and daddy go" , so off he went. No issues for 2 weeks even at nursery school. We are now week 3 and still no accidents at home but seems to wee himself alot at nursery school and now even done a #2 in his pants to. When I ask him why, his response is "I'm having to much fun mum and I was to late " . Any idea or advice how to change this Habbit.

Much appreciated.

Tell the nursery he needs reminding to go. They should support you with this

@Addicted2LoveIsland yes, I have already done so. They said they have but usually he says he's not ready. So I kind of explained when he says he's not ready, it means he's to busy and he's not ready to walk away. Because at home when I ask him he says "no I don't need to go toilet" . That's what I'm thinking anyways. But who knows. I'm sure they try as best as they can.

It's really normal - there's way more distractions and fun they don't want to miss at nursery.

The staff just need to keep reminding and asking him regularly. Send in loads of extra clothes for the inevitable accidents. Could also try a reward system, talk about it each morning "no accidents at nursery today and you can have a chocolate / sticker / etc tonight"

They need to tell him not ask him. I managed nurseries for years. They need to find an appropriate strategy. If he says "I don't need to go" they should be saying "OK but I need you to try". I agree he is distracted but they need to offer better support IMO.

Also OP you need to have a chat at the beginning of th4 day with his key worker if he or she is there and include your child (age appropriate obvs) and explain to him just like at home he needs to go at nursery and listen when the teachers say it's time. No pressure or anything just so he knows you're all on the same page and it's same rules.

Thanks all, I went down and talked to his main carer. She tried to insist he was asked many times of day. But after a long talk , I feel like we are on a similar page. I will see how he does.

You spot signs at home with just him, in nursery hard for him to interrupt a story for example and ask to go.