Son having issues at nursery

[charlotteclarke]

So my son is great using the loo at home or while we are out. He always asks for the potty when we are with him. But since starting nursery last Friday, we have had accidents all 3 days, his not going to the loo himself or letting the teachers know if he needs to. I've asked the teachers to remind him every 30mins if possible or to walk him there but he just says no and runs off. I'm starting to stress that I've not trained him right. Any help would be greatful.

You shouldn’t need to remind him every thirty minutes, that’s counter productive - obviously if you’re about to go out or they start jiggling you may give a reminder. But not as a default. It’s only been a few days so I’d still give it time to settle. I always found accidents happened often when there was a lot of distraction and fun things to do, so if he’s mentally stimulated at nursery he may just not recognise the feeling of needing the toilet or like my DS would prefer to wet himself than stop playing with the dinosaurs. Give it a bit of time. Learning to recognise when you need the toilet when there’s so much going on around you is just another skill to master.

Very normal for being in a new setting. He is just getting used to the environment and the toilets.

He’s in a new setting where he probably doesn’t feel comfortable enough with the adults yet to take him and also probably isn’t yet confident enough to go on his own.

You need to not make a big deal of it with him and just give him time to adjust, though there’s no harm in talking to him about it at home, reminding him to go when he needs to or tell a member of staff etc.

When this happened with DS it was very short lived and he was back to normal.

Glad to know it's normal, I always talk to him before going in for him to let the teacher know when he needs to go and walk him to the loo's just to remind him where they are. Little worried as when he went when I was there he nearly fell in the loo, so hoping that's not putting him off using them to.