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Reception daughter.... arghhh!

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Cheeseandcrackers86 · 20/09/2022 19:55

Has been potty trained since just turned 2 with ease. Had the odd setback but hadn't had any accidents for a year but has had 2 since starting school. One was noticed and she was changed. The other was today and she hadn't even told anyone and when I noticed and lied and said she spilled water.... she says it's coz she gets too excited at buddy time and distracted (she has a Y6 buddy and adores her) I really don't know what to do. I'll be honest I've read the riot act a bit about it this pm. I've been quite blunt and explained that it's unacceptable and that wee is stinky and that's why it needs to go down the toilet. I've also hinted we might have to stop buddy time if it's making her wee herself (empty threat I know) She otherwise seems to be settling well at school. I am at a loss. Has anyoje been through this and can suggest a good solution. I'm trying not to be cross at her but she knows HOW to keep her pants dry so she's CHOOSING to do this which makes it all the more frustrating and harder to deal with. Thanks x

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Oatmealbiscuits · 20/09/2022 20:01

I think you're being a little harsh for a 4/5 year old. They get distracted, happened to mine a few times throughout reception year. It's not done on purpose.

ClocksGoingBackwards · 20/09/2022 20:02

Don’t make threats that you have no power to carry out for a start!

I wouldn’t worry too much. This often happens with reception children that have been reliably dry for a while. Sometimes they’re too shy to say they want to go, or it happens because they’re too busy having fun so they hold it for as long as they can because they don’t want to give up their place in a game or turn with a particular toy. When the novelty of these things wears off, the problem corrects itself.

That said though, it’s worth letting the teacher know that it’s happened and making sure your dd knows what she’s supposed to do when she wants to go at different times of the day. Encourage her to go and have a try any time the teacher suggests it.

bootseason · 20/09/2022 20:48

Oh bless relax a bit - I wet myself a little bit the first term starting school, it's very common, so many things to navigate.

toomuchlaundry · 20/09/2022 20:55

Think reception teachers are used to damp patches on the carpet. They will also have a cupboard with spare pants etc. They are used to it. If they are aware your DD is doing this they might remind her to go to more often

FatAgainItsLettuceTime · 20/09/2022 20:56

She doesn't have control of it though, she gets excited, can't control her response to that excitement, holds it too long and then has an ACCIDENT.

Speak to the teacher informally at drop off and just ask if she can remind DD to go to the loo before buddy time starts.

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