Is he ready?

[anonnancy]

my little boy is 2.8. I wasn’t planning on potty training until Christmas when I have a solid 2 weeks off work, but on Thursday my son decided he was done with the nappy. he tells me as soon as he has done a wee in it and asks me to change it (which is quite wasteful!) he also tells me when he is doing a poo in the nappy although seems happy to sit in it and continue playing which I find odd. The whole aversion to sitting in a wet nappy has happened suddenly and seems to have come out of the blue! So on Friday I managed to put him into a nappy for nursery and dashed off to the shops to stock up on some big boy pants.

told nursery we were going to give the potty training a go over the bank hol and on weds when he’s back at nursery he will be in pants. They are very supportive.

yesterday was our first day out of nappies. We had 2 wee’s on potty, a poo on the carpet and then a wee in his pants on the garden. I was quite pleased for a first day attempt.

he did go into a nappy when he went to the park with dad, at DS’s request. When he got home we put him back in pants but nothing happened potty wise and by then it was bedtime so a nappy went back on.

this morning, we’ve taken his nappy off as soon as he woke up and our pants on. He doesn’t want to poo on the potty so we had a poo accident (fine). I have been offering the potty every 30/45 mins with a lot of refusal. Sat him on the potty after his brekky (he has been in pants for 2 hours) and finally a wee. Huzzah! Reward with Milky Way magic star. Pants go up but 30 seconds later he does another wee (or finishing off the initial wee?) we’ve then had another accident (wee). He just stood and wee’d in the pants and didn’t seem bothered at all. I don’t make a big deal I just way “oh never mind, maybe next time we can get to the potty in time to do a wee!” And then he watches me clean it up and I ask “do you know where you do wee wees?” And he says “the potty”.

he’s not asked to use the potty once, potty time has been initiated by me saying “shall we have a sit on the potty and try for a wee?” Or me physically putting him on the potty.

im wondering if maybe he isn’t quite ready yet? But I can’t afford to be changing his nappy every time he does a wee (he insists I take his nappy off once he’s wee’d now).

just feeling a bit lost / wondering if I’m doing the right thing?

sorry this is long. I’m fully aware there will be lots of accidents until he gets the hang of it and I am totally fine with it but I’m curious as to whether I should encourage potty or keep him in nappies til he starts actually asking for the potty?

thanks in advance, from a very confused first timer when it comes to potty training! X

You're in the very early stages, it's going to take a few days. I'd persevere. No child ever went straight from nappies to potty trained, there will always be a learning curve. The fact that he pees in his pants is ok. He is learning at the moment.
At 2.8 a child should be able to go at least an hour between wees so I wouldn't remind any more than hourly otherwise he won't actually need to go and will get fed up with being asked.
Your goal in the first few days isn't to prevent accidents, it's for him to learn what it feels like when he needs to go, and to learn the process of going to potty, pulling pants down, weeing, pulling pants up, washing hands. Once he has some practice at that, cut the reminders and up the rewards.

He sounds about there. It can take a couple of days for things to click sometimes.

I'd try again today with pants and potty and 1 day at nursery.

If no improvement back to nappies for a month or so.

With both mine we had a false start before they were finally ready. When they were by day 3 we were seeing some real progress.

We followed the Oh Crap method - I'd suggest going pants free for a week and just having joggers or shorts on sometimes pants can give the feeling of a nappy. He definitely sounds ready. We looked for "signs" DS was about to wee/poo and whipped the potty out as well to try to avoid any accidents. Good luck!