HELP 3YO holds wee in!!

[seaandsunn]

Hi all

Potty trained my DS(3) and we had a great start however Day 3 he held his wee in from 2pm until day 4 when I took him to hospital as it got to 12 and still no wee. It was approaching 24h of no wee. Of course he decided to do ones here as we were waiting for a doctor.
He drinks lots and lots but today is happening again

Doesn't want a nappy on but won't do a wee. Keeps saying he needs one then when he is on the toilet he just won't let it out 😭

Any advice? He had 4 massive bottles of water this morning and 0 wees

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What are you actually worried about? There's nothing medically wrong with him (you've had him checked out!) and he can't actually burst his bladder or anything like that!

Are you positive he didn't just take himself off quietly to the toilet? Or wee in the bath (or garden?!)

I'm not trying to be unkind, but you have to dial down your anxiety. Potty training is not a big deal. They get most of their wees in the right place, a few in the wrong place, it's all fine. Ingrained toileting phobias/anxieties are much harder to deal with than a wee on the floor.

My son did this when he was potty training - he would hold it and then be distraught and cry because it was hurting to hold it in. He would ALWAYS do a wee in the bath though so I would get him in quickly and he would wee and I would gently tell him it hurts to hold it in, when you let it out it doesn't hurt anymore!

He was at nursery 5 days a week and did the same - he would run to the toilet but then wouldn't sit on it and end up having an accident on the floor in the toilets. They started spinning him around when he started to wet himself so his wee would go into the toilet (so weeing from standing) and then praise him. By the end of the week he proudly showed me weeing in the toilet from standing. He always did his wees from standing instead of sitting after that (although does both now).

Maybe try getting him to wee from standing (I read about people standing their boys in warm water by the toilet so they would wee that way!).

You are being rather unkind. If you're having a bad day maybe try not to give advice.
My anxiety is under control thank you, I am worried not anxious. Very different things

When you say potty training is easy. DS is my third child and the others haven't done any of the above. I can say the same about my other two it was easy. However it's not with DC3.

I just wanted some advice from other mums who have gone through it thats all

Blowing bubbles is also supposed to help? As well as being fun and switching off some of the focus it helps to relax the right muscles.
I found running a tap near my potty refusing DD helpful too..

Thanks so much.

That's a great idea. I haven't tried to sit him up. My other two are girls so it was easier 😂

Will try to show him when he next asks to go.

Thank you

my DD 7 also does this, I still have to tell her to go and have a bloody wee! I wouldn't worry though it's mainly annoying rather than anything else. Hopefully it's a shorter phase than DDs!

I don’t think the PP was being unkind at all, just factual. He can’t hold it in indefinitely and there’s no medical issue, so just wait it out and when he can’t hold it anymore he’ll go. Hopefully in the toilet/potty, but if not then you move on and try again next time.

@GiltEdges

Thank you. I agree with what you're saying . However telling someone to dial down their anxiety is unkind. I wasn't asking for advice on any anxiety

Thank you.

I completely forgot I've read before about the bubbles hack!

I think you can buy things to stick in the toilet like a target to make it fun - see if he can hit the target with his wee or something! I do this sometimes just with toilet paper and he tries to wash it down with his wee into the toilet 😂