Oh crap! Method - unsure on progress/just stuck!

[PaterMoyn]

So my DD is nearly just over 22 months and we decided to start potty training as she was hiding to poo, and hated being in a dirty nappy immediately after going to the loo and would be dry for ages despite drinking plenty.
I’m also pregnant and due in August and really wanted to try and get things going before we have a newborn and all the nappies for him.
So we’re on week 3 I think and there’s definitely progress. Day 1 and mainly 2 lots of tiny wees lots of accidents and a few “catches” on the potty, then she was holding her wees more but not happy about sitting on the potty at all! Wee and poo accidents - we thought oh god what’s going on.
So now, DD says she wants the toilet, mainly just the word “toilet” and then we know she wants to go but she generally will get up after sitting down on her potty without doing anything and won’t want to sit down until she’s just about to wee/poo.
All of this has been with tops or a dress on. We’ve quite a few short trips out where she will sit on the travel potty before and after we get in the car to go/come home and she has also sat on the potty while on a walk but she just hasn’t needed it and held it until we’ve been home. Don’t see that as a problem.
I just feel like we’re on a bit of a plateau and I’m not sure we’re doing things “correctly”.
At the minute DD doesn’t sit on the potty properly. She crouches and is steadied by my husband or I, she has used the handles on the trainer seat on the toilet herself for a poo and I thought we’ve cracked it! But that’s only happened twice.
She won’t sit fully until she’s nearly finished her wee/poo.
Any tips? Thoughts?
Not sure if it’s just a, carry on and it’ll click more. We still sometimes don’t get to the potty in time but it’s usually after she’s said toilet, nothing has happened on the potty and then she wants to get up and I’ve turned my back because I put the kettle on or think okay I have a minute to grab this or that or whatever. You get the idea!
Help!

Have you read the book? Which stage are you on?

Hello! Yeah I’ve read it and then been going back to the “dramas” bit. Well to me I thought we were in block 3 as she’s had shorts and leggings on and commando but has been to our family’s houses and successfully weed and pooed, I rarely prompt, only if we’re leaving the house or we’re actually outside and it’s been a couple of hours as that’s her usual rhythm for the day. But she was sitting down initially okay and now she’s sitting less often.
I don’t know maybe I just need to think of it more as how I’m disciplining her!? Being more firm.
I just feel a bit like we’re sort of dancing back and forth but perhaps that’s just how I should expect it to be more!
I don’t have any friends who have children to chat to about it to hear of how other people have got on I suppose is the problem!

Is your concern mostly that she’s not sitting properly? I would correct this as “sit on properly so your wee or poo goes in the right place.” without trying to make a big deal if it.
We did several weeks at stage 3 before being secure enough to move on

Yeah I suppose it is really, thanks for responding, I appreciate it.
I’m pleased to know you spent a few weeks at this point too, I’ll try that and see how we get on. She’ll do it!
My mum is forever saying, oh such and such only took a few days, she’s too young, blah blah. A bit draining!
Thanks again, take care.

She’s definitely not too young if she now can communicate toilet to you. As ever, the golden rule with other people’s opinions who’ve done it differently, is take them with a pinch of salt

I would just carry on and let her get used to sitting as the weeks progress.
Fwiw my DD was great at potty wees when nude for 6 months, no poo and accidents in pants, then she suddenly clicked on day (2 1/4 years) and could use clothes with no accidents. I do like the oh crap book although didnt follow it as gospel

OP, whatever happens I'd just really not worry about following a particular method. I have friends who diligently followed Oh Crap and their children were definitely not trained any quicker nor more reliably than those who just followed their instincts.

@PaterMoyn

Yeah I suppose it is really, thanks for responding, I appreciate it. I’m pleased to know you spent a few weeks at this point too, I’ll try that and see how we get on. She’ll do it! My mum is forever saying, oh such and such only took a few days, she’s too young, blah blah. A bit draining! Thanks again, take care.

Oh, people love this 'if you waited until they were 3 they'd be trained in a day' - I mean, maybe they would but you'd have changed another year's worth of nappies in the meantime! It would be different if she was showing she clearly wasn't ready but she's showing that she is - she isn't quite there yet, but she's making so much progress that I absolutely think you need to crack on and ignore your mum!

I think just stick with it, as long as she’s going in the right place just gently tell her to sit down properly. We had small regressions like starting nursery or illness (but these were small wees and 1 poo at nursery but she was little and scared I think) ) but glad we did it.

We started at the same age as you and 4 months later accidents (tiny bit of wee in pants) still happen very occasionally at home when she’s over tired but never any accidents outside of the house or at nursery.

She sounds like she’s doing great, are the seats cold?

We had two attempts with the Oh Crap method - one at 20 months and a second at 26 months.

For the first, my daughter was capable but very resistant so we decided to take a long break and try again.

For the second, we didn’t stick so rigidly to the Oh Crap rules but adapted to suit my daughter’s personality. We did stickers on a sticker chart for wees and chocolate buttons for poos and she only ever had a handful of accidents - we also took her to the loo regularly rather than trying to look for her sign and react, which I think just made her feel pressured and stressed (us too!)

We did follow the naked (on bottom half), commando, underwear progression recommended by the book though.

Thank you! That’s really encouraging to know. I was having a bit of a wobble but we’re determined to stick with it and we’ll get there between us! ☺️ Thanks again