Going great at home but not at nursery

[Abouttimemum]

Hi everyone!

I started potty training my almost 3 year old a week ago and he’s been great, most wees on the potty or toilet with one accident every day. So pretty steady. The key thing is he doesn’t ask to go for a wee, we just sit him on and he goes.

The accidents have all been late afternoon when he’s tired and distracted with toys. We’ve also been out loads and this has also been better than I expected.

However, he went to nursery yesterday for the first time since we started (I took some time off work to focus on it) and he’s just had a day full of accidents, lots of clothes changes, and when DH picked him up they said it was ‘ok if we wanted to put him back in nappies’.

I mean, I plan to stick with it as he’s doing well in my opinion but has anyone faced this? And will it get better?

I’m assuming it takes a while before they realise they need to go and ask to go.

I’ll not mention poos as that’s a whole other ball game!

Thanks

Very, very normal for it to be completely different at Nursery from home.
You are 1:1 - you even said you had the luxury of time off just to focus on this.
At Nursery he will be 1:4 ratio and there will be a lot more going on in terms of activities and exciting places to be.
Overwhelmingly, Nurseries will support with potty training there are exceptions but you need to be really clear that he isn't actually indicating he needs to go, and that you have been randomly sitting him on a potty every 30mins or hour or whatever you have been doing, and that he still hasn't been indicating that he knows he needs to go. I don't know how well you feel you communicated this before sending him in, in pants ?

Hi @Kite22 thanks for the reply, much appreciated.

I spoke to them about it before we started and they agreed he was ready because he was going with the other kids, and reiterated again before I dropped him off, and I was clear that he doesn’t ask to go yet, and that they’ll need to take him at intervals. He can go every two hours at home but they said they’d take him every hour.

She said they would sit him on and he wouldn’t go, but that five minutes later he’d have an accident. And that sometimes they’d sit him on and he’d miss (ie, it would fly over the top) and they classed this as an accident as well.

It’s sounds like he’s not ready, but at home he’s fine so I felt absolutely dreadful for him and them and a bit like a failure to be honest!

He’s in for four days next week and I’m dreading it! He woke up this morning (he’s still in bedtime nappies but he’s been dry at night for ages) and we sat him on the toilet and he went no problem and that was two hours ago.

Just by way of an update - DS has been absolutely fine at nursery this week so I guess those extra few days over the weekend have helped him ‘get it’ - his key worker is really pleased.
I suppose we just needed it for click for him.

Just the number twos to sort out now!