Do I carry on? Scared to get OFF potty.

[Ihavenoideawhatimdoinghelp]

Dd will be 3 at the end of April. We've had a potty in the room for about a year, plenty of talks about pottys, reading books etc. About 3 months ago we did a big girl shopping trip for knickers and the next day attempted to train her. She sat on the potty for 6 hours, holding in her wee but refusing to get off the potty, until she was screaming because her bum hurt and I had to physically wrestle her off. So we decided to leave it until she was more ready.

We've just had a nursery place come up for her to start in a few weeks and I've had a panic that she's not going to be potty trained when she starts and the others in her class probably will be. So this morning it's bare bums, trying again. How ever we've got the same problem as last time. She's sat on the potty, not doing anything. I try taking her off it, saying try again later and she says she need to "Wait a little more mummy" I've tried distracting her. Saying let's go watch TV, let's go get a snack. But no she just cries and says "need to wait for wee"

Anyone had this? What do I do, I can't leave her sat there, her bums and legs will be red raw.

[user1488622199]

My little girl turned 3 at the end of November and she’s only just potty trained in the last month or so, so don’t worry about age. I started potty training my son at 2.5 but he wasn’t trained until he was 3, it was 6 months of misery to be honest. There were plenty of their peers at nursery who were potty trained at that age but others who weren’t - try not to get caught up in age but focus on her readiness (easier said than done i know!)

I would check with the nursery in the first instance to see how they manage potty training. I didn’t have the same issue as you so feel free to discard these suggestions but I would let her go bare bumed at home for a while when you do start and just get her used to not using a nappy. Don’t worry so much about getting her to sit on the potty/toilet initially to try to do a wee and. After a few days then ask about whether she wants to try the potty, she might recognise the sensations a bit better and feel more comfortable about sitting on the potty. You could also think about skipping the potty altogether and going straight for the toilet. Once we found the right seat for my son it made all the difference for him. He didn’t use the potty at all after that.

[Ihavenoideawhatimdoinghelp]

Thank you it's helpful to hear. In terms of signs of readiness I'm not sure she has any! She doesn't care if her nappies wet. She can do a poo in front of me and if I ask if she has then she says no! Never says she needs to go or if she has... I think she's just not ready.

[Abouttimemum]

Hi, DS is in a class with a mix of potty trained and not potty trained so I wouldn’t worry, they’re all around the 3 age. I’ve just started with DS and he’s 3 next month.

[Luredbyapomegranate]

@user1488622199

My little girl turned 3 at the end of November and she’s only just potty trained in the last month or so, so don’t worry about age. I started potty training my son at 2.5 but he wasn’t trained until he was 3, it was 6 months of misery to be honest. There were plenty of their peers at nursery who were potty trained at that age but others who weren’t - try not to get caught up in age but focus on her readiness (easier said than done i know!)

I would check with the nursery in the first instance to see how they manage potty training. I didn’t have the same issue as you so feel free to discard these suggestions but I would let her go bare bumed at home for a while when you do start and just get her used to not using a nappy. Don’t worry so much about getting her to sit on the potty/toilet initially to try to do a wee and. After a few days then ask about whether she wants to try the potty, she might recognise the sensations a bit better and feel more comfortable about sitting on the potty. You could also think about skipping the potty altogether and going straight for the toilet. Once we found the right seat for my son it made all the difference for him. He didn’t use the potty at all after that.

I think this is very sensible advice, and also think at three heading straight to the loo might be best - you use it too so that makes it fun. If you do get resistance letting her see you use it can be very helpful!

And yes, just chat to the nursery rather than worrying alone. She'll get it soon - fret not.