I hate this

[Fritilleries]

I'm so fucking done with it all. I hate potty training. I've screamed at my toddler because they have pooed and it's ended up on my jeans and hands because of the mess. I've screamed and sworn and shut him in his room. Can't cope with it anymore.

Poos are so normal.

I put a bowl of treats in the toilet no sweets but things that go on party bags, peppa pig figures, some sticker and some tattoos.

Everytime they do a poo on the toilet or potty they choose a present from the bowl went down a treat.

My little boy has been potty trained for 7 months also 3 and a half and we've had atleast 3 poo regressions at some point.

My 2 took a long time to get clean and we still had dirty pants well over a year into potty training. Being angry or any type of emotion about it will not work. You have to be totally nonchalant about it even when you don't feel it. Make it a total hassle for him that he's soiled himself though. 'oh dear, now we have to stop playing, go to the bathroom, you'll need to rake those dirty clothes off, put them in the laundry, wipe yourself clean and get all dressed again in fresh clothes', reminders about how much quicker and easier it would be to use the toilet will incentivise more than your negative emotion. Also look up 'poo goes to pooland' on you tube.

Sounds tough. If it helps one handy hint for when I feel myself getting like I might yell is to have a sip of water. I read it on here.

Does he have a younger sibling? My DS cracked potty training but when his sister was 6 weeks old decided to start hiding to poo. It was to get my attention. I made sure he had plenty of alone time with me and he stopped doing it

@popcorndiva

Does he have a younger sibling? My DS cracked potty training but when his sister was 6 weeks old decided to start hiding to poo. It was to get my attention. I made sure he had plenty of alone time with me and he stopped doing it

I think I'd lose my remaining shreds of sanity if I had another one. It's just him and he gets my full and undivided attention except for when I need the loo, or need to sort out a load of washing.

He doesn't sound ready. Potty training is not as stressful as you have experienced. Keep him on nappies/ pull ups. Give it a few more months. Your child is not ready. You will give him lasting damage if ur not careful

@Suzi9989 trouble is that some preschools/nursery and schools (and other people who feel they need to input!!) put such pressure on parents to crack on.

Not sure if that's what's happening to OP here but personally I felt very pressured to potty train my not-ready 3.5yo.

OP there's an app called "Pooland" which is surreal but does work for some. It's basically a story about how "Poo" needs to go home to Pooland! Might encourage him to poo and create some fun around it too.

Oh I forgot about poo goes to Pooland! Very popular with my boys too! We waved good bye to the poo and everything. Worth a try!

Are you in the UK? Im surprised the nursery are giving him a spoonful of honey when he does a poo.

I just want to say. I read your post and your son was 3.5 years old like my daughter is today. I was so relieved to read another mother's simular struggling with this. I totally lost it today and feel I've probably traumatised my daughter for life. Thing is im alone.. Stressed burnt out with my older kids. My guess is your son is long potty trained by now and you didn't traumatise him for life you just had a really bad day. Screw all the perfect mums that never shout or lose it on this thread!!!! I know your only human and we all make mistakes! I for one am in tears at the way things have gone this week with my own toilet training woes. Thank you for sharing this. Your struggle helped me