First Day of Potty Training

[LonglegsMumtheBlacksmith]

Fucking nightmare.
DS has sat on the potty loads but not actually done anything on the potty. Meanwhile we've had two wet accidents, a (probably) accidental poo on the lounge floor and then a blatant piss all over the bathroom floor next to the potty.
I've taken loads of advice, so not really looking for that but please, if anyone is here with me or if you have funny stories about potty training I would love to hear!

First day for my daughter (3 in March). She refused to be naked. Refused to get out of bed (until she wet it)... we have two loads of laundry so far today. She's commando. Last incident she ran all over the lounge while weeing. Cried because she thought she was naughty. She knows she's about to wee because she says 'I not want a wee.' We had another pep talk. Said I was proud of how much she's trying to learn... will see how long our glow after the last pep talk carries on?? I'm chilled but exhausted and I've done pretty much nothing (except get wee'd on) all day.

I even wee'd in her potty to try to get her to sit on it...

@ismybabymine
THANK YOU it is lovely to hear from someone who also seems to be spending fruitless time sitting around being weed on!

In good news DS has managed a poo in the potty today and has twice asked to go to the potty just slightly too late for a wee.

Can I ask what has made you choose to do this now? I actually can't remember what made me think this was the weekend to go for it 😂

My mat leave ends in 8 weeks and im away from her next Friday. I also need to start ADs for PND sooner rather than later... which I know will give me side effects for a little while so wanted the bulk of potty training done. Plus she tells me when she's going to wee/ poo. I also think it won't get easier when she's older. She's so bossy!

It's very normal. Hang in there.

@ismybabymine

My mat leave ends in 8 weeks and im away from her next Friday. I also need to start ADs for PND sooner rather than later... which I know will give me side effects for a little while so wanted the bulk of potty training done. Plus she tells me when she's going to wee/ poo. I also think it won't get easier when she's older. She's so bossy!

Oh, hey I am sorry about your PND and hope the ADs help. DS is super bossy too - we were going to start potty training sooner but had some stresses at home which caused a massive regression in him. So I think you're absolutely amazing to have thought about things so carefully and to take the bill by the horns right now instead of leaving it until you're feeling more like yourself.

@NuffSaidSam
Thank you - today has been way more successful. DW wasn't working and we had each other's support. DS managed to use the potty three times and although he had a few accidents in between they were genuine accidents/ couldn't quite make it to the potty in time. He's really really chuffed with himself
Let's see what tomorrow brings

Give it a few days and if there's no improvement try again in a few weeks.

Still won't sit on the potty. Won't even take her joggers off. She's withholding. Starting to feel like I've failed her a bit... trying to keep it light and breezy. But I also feel the time pressure. This really needs to work.

She wouldn't even sit on it for a milky button.

She doesn't want to do it. But she's also the sort of kid where if we give up now, she'll know she can easily outlast us. She has decided she doesn't like the potty. Unless we get over that now, she'll be talking about that for months (she still talks about the old daily vitamin she stopped taking in August)...

@ismybabymine

Still won't sit on the potty. Won't even take her joggers off. She's withholding. Starting to feel like I've failed her a bit... trying to keep it light and breezy. But I also feel the time pressure. This really needs to work.

She wouldn't even sit on it for a milky button.

She doesn't want to do it. But she's also the sort of kid where if we give up now, she'll know she can easily outlast us. She has decided she doesn't like the potty. Unless we get over that now, she'll be talking about that for months (she still talks about the old daily vitamin she stopped taking in August)...

Blimey! Sorry, I have just seen this. Quite a day here too! How are things now? DS sounds incredibly similar to your DD. He's stubborn as anything and will hold a grudge for months. I knew if he didn't like the potty or asked for a nappy we would have to just keep going - any sign of backing down and he wouldn't do anything ever again! I am relieved that he actually seems to want to use the potty yesterday/ today, he's just not particularly good at it yet 😬

She's been in a nappy this afternoon. And was really distressed even then. She was asking for a nappy change before she'd even done a wee. Didn't seem to know if she was coming or going...

So I guess we'll have to try again at a later date.

She was distressed, not herself, kept asking to go to bed (she no longer naps most days) and clearly needed to wee but just wouldn't...

Don't really know where to go from here. She's clearly capable. But just not willing to learn right now. I am a teacher by trade, so I get that. Just can't deal with potty training once I'm back at work!!!

When they’re ready it’s nowhere near as stressful, that’s the thing!!

@ismybabymine
I am sorry - I know how desperate you were to get this done and dusted before you return to work :o(
I think as PP says, waiting until DD is ready will make the process a lot easier - so you hopefully won't have to go through all of this again at a later date, it'll be smoother and easier all around.

DS was also asking to go to bed all day yesterday and was clearly exhausted by thinking about it all the time. He went to CM in a nappy this morning, but I packed a load of pants and joggers just in case. I had a text from CM an hour later saying that DS had demanded to wear pants, so they were going for it! I love that he wants to do it, even though he clearly feels disappointed when he has an accident.

Sounds like our children are easily as stubborn as each other but whilst your DD won't use the potty my DS can't! Well, not always anyway!

@ismybabymine
YIKES! That is not the face I was trying to pull in my last post. Apologies, I have no idea where that emoji came from!!