Hello, name change as been discussing in real life. Hoping someone with greater wisdom might be able to help! DD is 4 and a half. Started daytime wee training at the start of the first lockdown, so just shy of 3. Was a bit of a disaster, we kept at it and despite several set backs and regressions we have fairly much cracked it. Things were great in the summer but she started school in September and understandably there was another regression. School have been great and they've told us that when challenged she's said "it doesn't matter if I wet myself". Which led them onto asking if we had trained at night, we hadn't even started contemplating that. They think she could be getting mixed messages by having the night time nappies.
In the daytime she knows she's wet herself but will never tell us, acts evasive if questioned. She's not bothered or uncomfortable if wet. She will go do a wee if we ask most of the time, and go herself too if in the mood. Poos have always been fine thankfully.
So in early October we ditched the nighttime nappies and went cold turkey - soaked every night. Started waking her several times to do a wee, much better, no accidents 2/3 of the time. Kept at that until December, daytime is great again, but no progress with night (wet if we don't get her up). Got in touch with health visitor to see if we should continue or give up and try again in a few months. She said (via text as that's what they're doing) that we must not give up, keep at it. Told us off for waking DD up, says she must wake herself when she feels wet. This has never ever happened, she sleeps like a log. This is the root of the problem really. She's never had a dry nappy/pants if not woken and made wee. She's never gone to the loo/potty herself at night. Arrgghh!
Got some of those thick training pants that hold some in, but they and the entire bedding are soaked every morning. Anything that can be covered by a protector already is.
Over Christmas we did go back to nappies as we were travelling and couldn't have that mess every night. Daytime remained ok. We pretended that the nappies were a special type of holiday training knickers that didn't hold wee in to try avoid confusion.
So anyway here we are, I want to give up and try again in a few months but my husband thinks we should go back to waking her in the night a few times. neither of which the health visitor agreed with. If you've read this far thank you so much! Any advice or even solidarity welcome. I never thought that coming up to 2 years we would still be here..