Potty and nappy refusal!

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We tried potty training DD over the Christmas break. At first she was really enthusiastic, loved the clapping and praise when she did a wee in the potty. Explained to her that nappies were only for naps and night time, lots of nodding. I celebrated too soon however....

She suddenly took against the potty and refuses to use it. However, she also refuses to go in a nappy - I can get her in one but she just doesn't wee in it! I've tried a seat on the toilet as well, same reaction. She can hold a wee in for an impressively long time, wants to go to the bathroom, and then gets into a stance and goes on the floor, even if the potty is right beside her. Afterwards she'll point at it and say 'Oh dear' and then points at the cleaning stuff, so she knows exactly what she's doing.

Any ideas on what the heck I can do? I'd happily go back to nappies but she won't go in them during the day

Tbh wee is sterile. I let my DD wee wherever when she was younger, though encouraged her to use the toilet. She eventually grew out of it at age 8.

I would say keep going, I think they all go through a stage where they refuse to go in the potty. Mine did and then one day it was fine 🤷

Sorry meant to add, I would follow her lead and not put her back into nappies as she doesn't want to wear one. I bet she'll get there on the potty front.

I think you just need to be consistent. Every time it happens, say firmly "No DD, wee goes in the potty or the toilet, not on the floor." and get her to help clean it up. And maybe a star chart for every wee in the toilet or potty?

@BaconBaker You let your seven year old wee on the floor?!

@BaconBaker

Tbh wee is sterile. I let my DD wee wherever when she was younger, though encouraged her to use the toilet. She eventually grew out of it at age 8.

Eh?! 8?!

You need to encourage your dd to use the potty. Get her to help clean it up.
Put the potty in front of the tv.
Give her a sweet everytime she uses the potty
Get her a sticker chart

Give her something she wouldn’t normally get, if she uses the potty successfully.

DH and I both work full time: nursery will sit her on the potty at nappy change time but I can't realistically send her in when I know she'll wee on the floor - I've put her in pull ups, which I think are confusing her as she does her usual stance but then no wee ends up on the floor.

We decorated the potty with peppa pig stickers this morning, which she was enthusiastic about. Still didn't use it though!

I drew the line at poo though, and she fully understood that. My advice is to take it easy and don't rush/force things.

But you still let a 7 year old wee where ever she wanted as long as it wasn’t a poo?

@BaconBaker

Tbh wee is sterile. I let my DD wee wherever when she was younger, though encouraged her to use the toilet. She eventually grew out of it at age 8.

It may be sterile but it still stinks!

@BaconBaker

Tbh wee is sterile. I let my DD wee wherever when she was younger, though encouraged her to use the toilet. She eventually grew out of it at age 8.

Even if it is sterile, you still have to clean it up if you don't want a carpet that stinks of urine. That's a good enough reason in itself to not want them pissing all over the floor. A 7 year old weeing on the carpet is just bizarre.

I believe it's only sterile at the point of leaving the body. It doesn't stay sterile, and as per PP, it stinks.

Your house must have been pretty grim if DD was weeing all over the place up to the age of eight Bacon

Take her by the hand - say nothing and lead her to the bathroom, slowly take you time in cleaning her up and changing her cloths - don’t speak, don’t engage.

She’ll learn that she get no attention from doing this and she’s missing play or the or whatever

Do it quietly and slowly everytime.

It's a myth that wee is sterile. In fact bacteria breeds in it very quickly!

OP, my advice would be to clean up any accidents with a completely neutral attitude - not cross or upset, no recriminations, just be totally blank. Does she watch you use the loo? Treat yourself to a giant chocolate button in front of her every time you go. Don't give one to her just because she asks, tell her 'When you do a wee on the potty then you get one!' Same for anyone else in the house - they all get a chocolate button for going to the loo. She should be keen enough to be part of it that she's motivated to use the potty again.

What the fuck am i reading?!

You let your 8 year shit and piss in the house like a dog?!

That is grim and disgusting

If this is for real, it's absolutely disgusting, OK kids occasionally have accidents on the carpet, but you don't actively encourage them to do it there.

BaconBaker is winding everyone up and possibly getting a weird kick out of this thread. Ignore ignore ignore.

Sorry it was probably tmi. I grew up in a very messy house, had loads of animals, etc, so it's never bothered me too much. Back to the thread, I would encourage the OP (if they want an alternative view) so to tell their DD that nappies are needed if she won't toilet like a big girl.

Does she go to nursery? If so, she will soon catch on to what’s expected there.