Is he scared of seeing?

[Bakingwithmyboys]

DS2 is 3yrs and 4 months.

We have tried potty training once just after his third birthday. It was awful. He cried every time he had an accident and wasn't really making the link. By the end of the day I think he was trying to hold it. He got very upset and then lots of wee came out and it was like the worst thing in the world had happened.

We left it.

He took a long time to start talking about using the potty again.

This holiday I've managed to get him to sit on the potty a couple of times and wait while we count slowly to 10. So small progress. He gets worried if he waits much longer (I think it's when a wee is about to happen).

When he was just turned 2, he had just come out of the bath and was very upset. Then he wee'd on the floor. I really think he's scared of the act of doing a wee.

Has anyone come across this or am I overthinking?

He attends nursery every morning and they are not concerned about him being in nappies. He's an August baby so young compared to his peers at nursery. But he had a lot of understanding and is very verbal.

Title should say scared of weeing!

Bare bum indoors for a few days and bribe him with chocolate. You need to be a bit more persistent as well, make a huge fuss if he manages it.

There's obviously a limit where children get properly distressed and it's doing them more harm than good, but a bit of upset isn't the end of the world. You can comfort him but I'm not sure that crying a bit means you should stop, that teaches him to give up when he finds things tough.

It might also help to model using a toilet in front of him if you don't already, talk him through what's happening 'i need a wee, there it is, wipe the wee off, flush it away, bye bye wee!' etc

Good luck!

With the bare bum thing (from oh crap potty training guide) you watch them and sit them on the minute they start to wee or show signs of needing it, like jiggling, crossing legs etc

I bribed mine with smarties. Every time they did anything in the potty they got a smartie. Worked like a charm!!

Good luck.

Yes, probably. This is why children should be potty trained at around 2 years, as it's a more natural experience and they don't have the mental capacity to overthink the process and get worried / worked up in the same way that preschoolers do.

Assuming no SEN, you're just going to have to go full-on for a few days until he gets it. Bare bum, easy access to the potty (or at nearly 3.5 he might be better using the loo - he will possibly find a potty uncomfortable as they're made for toddlers). Lots of praise for trying (chocolate button bribery) and distraction (read books and resort to cartoons on a tablet / phone if necessary ). Don't let going back to nappies be an option as you'll only have to go through this again and again which will cause him more stress in the long run, especially as he gets older and will be able to remember all the times before.

I think giving up after 1 day was the fatal mistake here OP sorry. Also not all kids like going on a potty.... adults would feel uncomfortable and self conscious stripping down in the living room and toileting in-front of an Audience so entirely possible children do too - try just using the toilet

I gave up as he was distressed. Not just upset. Nothing I could do could calm him. Even DH saw how distressed he was and agreed that we needed to stop. I was thinking he had a urine infection and would need drs. I've potty trained DS1 successfully - I know the difference between a little upset and distress.

I've a feeling chocolate buttons may work and did think they were the next step.