Oh Crap method at 3y 3m?

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Hi all, I’ve got the Oh Crap book with a view to doing some toilet training in the Christmas break, especially if there is a lockdown and there’s nothing else to do anyway.

I started reading last night and she is essentially making it sound like I’m in for the worst ride ever because I’m starting way too late and how could I ever have been so stupid and misguided. 🙄

Has anyone got any experience of using this method over age 3 and how was it?

I have trained upwards of 50 children in my career as a childminder and I've read that book....ditch it would be my advice, read the nhs and ERIC websites its all the info you need. I dont do bare bottom....apart from the initial nappyfree pre bath. I advise either traditional Training pants that contain mess to a degree or putting plastic pants over pants. You will get accidents day one and two for sure but most children achieve being mostly dry in about a week. I've trained loads of boys over 3 if they are physically ready they are no different to one's of 30 months who are physically ready. None have taken the length of time this woman suggests.

I’d she didn’t make it sound impossibly hard she wouldn’t sell many books.

Just crack on and see what happens, you’ll most likely have cracked it in a few days.

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I’d she didn’t make it sound impossibly hard she wouldn’t sell many books.

Just crack on and see what happens, you’ll most likely have cracked it in a few days.

Exactly and she has to find a USP I died laughing at the idea you could sit watching for every single sign all day long becouse you send your other children away for a week. Totally unreal

Honestly the whole book is awful. It’s so sexist as well - horrifically dismissive of dads. So many people on here and IRL recommend it but I was honestly quite shocked when I read it.

I thought it was awful. All the stuff about them almost certainly being ready at X point. DD certainly wasn't and then we tried three months later and she got it straight away. She would have been v distressed if we had tried to carry on previously.

I much preferred the Gentle Potty Training Book by Sarah Ockwell-Smith.

I've potty trained 12 children as a nanny and never done the bare bottom, no pants thing, maybe it might be ok for very young toddlers but at 3yrs + I think it's not very respectful of the child's privacy and dignity to expect them to be half naked.
I've not read the Oh Crap book, but from what I've heard about it on mumsnet it sounds like it over complicates things a lot.

I potty trained my daughter when she was similar age and she was dry in just a few days. I tried before then but she just wasn't ready. A lot of people I know who have trained a lot earlier have been tearing there hair out with it taking a lot longer and being much harder work.
All children are different. Some get it sooner and some take a little longer.

It's quiet backward in many ways all current thinking and research says children develop at their own pace and we shouldn't expect x to happen at a set age but broadly within a wide time frame ....even that has been scrapped in the eyfs now with age bands totally going .....yet along comes a mum who's trained a couple of her own children before charging others saying no potty training must be done at this age in this way what is her research? Totally contradictory to everybody else's and shes making a fortune while stressing out parents.
Like all things your child learns they have to be ready for it, forcing a baby to sit dosent mean they do it early. If a child can't read at 5 we don't force them into stage 4 books

You’ve all made me feel so much better ❤️❤️❤️