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3yo wetting herself on purpose

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LouiseS0510 · 18/12/2021 11:23

My 3yo DD has been dry for about a year now. Been dry at night for around a month. But recently has started wetting herself numerous times a day. Today for example.. I gave her a small cup of water and said if you need a wee don’t forget to go the toilet to which she said I will… 2 mins later she came and said I’ve weed in my pjs… there’s been 2 more accidents since and it’s only 10am. for the first couple of accidents I’m calm and explain she’s a big girl now and needs to go on the toilet and not wee in her pants. And she acknowledges this. We’re just about to leave the house (on the last minute). I asked did she need a wee before we get in the car, she’s said no.. I put her in her car seat to find she’s soaked again. So Ive put her back in a pull up… she is hysterical saying she’s not a baby and she doesn’t like nappies. I maybe wrong doing that but I really don’t know what to do anymore.. she uses her knickers like their nappies so may aswell save on the constant changes and put her back in a nappy. Hoping this makes her realize she isn’t a baby and shouldn’t be weeing in her knickers everytime she needs to go. Any advice on the situation. I’m just at my wits end at the minute with her. I was warned about terrible twos.. nobody told me three is the worst age!! I just feel like I may aswell talk to the wall. She doesn’t listen to a word I say. Just feeling completely hopeless at the moment

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Hellocatshome · 18/12/2021 11:28

Does she have a UTI?

LouiseS0510 · 18/12/2021 11:51

@Hellocatshome

I’m not sure I’m putting it down to her just being lazy and doing it on purpose. Would she have a temp or anything if it was UTI? She hasn’t got a temp and it isn’t strong smelling urine x

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RodJaneFreddy · 18/12/2021 14:10

Have you tried cleaning her and changing clothes without saying anything about her wetting herself, just getting and doing it, then afterwards go make a cuppa, come back after a few minutes are resume whatever chat or game you were playing? Her wetting could be a way of getting your attention, ignoring the incident will show her there’s no point in doing it as mummy doesn’t react

Fireweeds · 18/12/2021 14:18

I would second both getting her checked for uti, they can be asymptomatic.
Would also second cleaning & changing without comment (thus can be the hardest thing in the world, don’t beat yourself up if you sometimes don’t manage)
Also, actually take her to the toilet & sit her on before going out & set a timer for a bit after a drink. Even if she’s been going independently she might want a bit of company or a bit of babying.

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