Using the potty at nursery but refusing at home

[cannonball8726]

Hi all,

My 2.5 year old had recently expressed an interest in using the potty at home and did a couple of wees. We thought she was ready for potty training and lots of toddlers are potty training in her room at nursery. The nursery staff suggested we send her in pants and she has been getting on well there with infrequent accidents. She tells them when she needs a wee and then goes to the potty.

At home we are now having a total nightmare. Since starting potty training at nursery, she has completely refused to use the potty/toilet seat at home and been holding in her wees and poos. We feel she is not ready and ordinarily would think it best to just hold off trying for a few weeks, but not sure what to do given she is doing her wees in the potty at nursery (she never poos at nursery - she always poos when she gets home - this was the case even before we started potty training).

Shall we just stop completely and ask nursery to stop too? Or carry on as we are at nursery given she is managing fine and use pull-ups at home? Benefits are she would still get lots of practice at nursery, but concerned that this will just cause her confusion and we will find it harder this way in the long term.

Grateful for your suggestions!
Thanks

If she's doing it a nursery she's clearly capable so I wouldn't put her back in pull ups. Does she see people in your house use the toilet? If not I'd start there as obviously she's seeing the kids using the potty at nursery which makes it 'safe'.

She’s ready. Which methodology are you using?

Thank you. In the end, she was quite stressed about the whole thing and asked to wear pull ups. So we put her in pull ups for a couple of weeks - but she was still happily using the potty at nursery even in pull-ups! Nursery said her pull-ups were always dry.

We just stopped talking about the potty and urging her, but did tell her that she was going to be wearing pants from this weekend and which pants would she like to wear etc. She has done all of her wees in the potty this weekend with no accidents. She hasn't done a poo in the potty yet (she's done one at nursery in the potty) and I imagine this may be tricky. She did a poo in her nighttime pull-up this morning. Overall, think she's making progress and doesn't seem stressed about the potty at home anymore! Hopefully we will have some success on the poo front soon...

Having the same challenge with our son who is the same age, doing really well at nursery but at home he’s refusing. At nursery he likes to go with the other children whereas at home he’s an only child so doesn’t have anybody to go with a apart from me and dh.

We just gave it a break at home for a couple of weeks as she was getting so distressed with it. She carried on using the potty at nursery
in the meantime without any issue. After the 2 week break, we spoke to her about using the potty at home again a few times and then she just did it. She uses the potty at home now without issues and happily uses the toilet too.

Glad we just chilled out about it for a bit!