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Is your child ready for potty training at nursery? Here's the place for all your toilet training questions.

Is she ready?

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Motherhippo · 15/10/2021 13:45

I'm sure I already know the answer to my own question but....
My DD is 2.2 years old and me and my hubby are looking at begin the enjoyable process of potty training ideally before baby no 2 comes along in February.

We have bought a bog standard potty, a potty which looks like a toilet that sings when you poo/wee in it and a toilet seat.
I know all children are different and we are hopeful that she will be happy to use one of these to go for a wee/poo.

We talk a lot about the potty/toilet and how that's where you poo and wee. I also have an open "door policy" so she can wander into the bathroom when I am on the toilet and I will explain that I am having a poo or a wee.

She's been sitting her baby doll on her potty and saying that baby is having a wee wee. She will also sit on her potty fully clothed and say "I'm having a wee mummy" We keep her potties in the bathroom to try and encourage the association between the bathroom and going for a wee/poo.

She also fights every nappy change. Screaming, kicking, crying... you'd think I was torturing her.

However when we've encouraged her to use the potty/toilet without her nappy she declines. And when we've sat her on it without a nappy she either cries and gets upset or will sit happily for a minute or two before running off without having done anything.

We've tried giving her time during the day without a nappy on but this upsets her and she will cry and say she wants to wear a nappy. Which says to me that she has some awareness of when she needs to wee?!?

However, she doesn't tell us when she's having/had a wee. I will just check her nappy every couple of hours and then change her accordingly. I'll tell her she needs a nappy change because her nappy has wee in and she will tell me that she does not need a new nappy.

When she has a poo she will take herself to a corner to do her business in semi privacy and when she is finished she will say "Mummy I've not done a poo" probably because she hates nappy changing.

Do you think she is ready for potty training yet? And if so how do I start. She is a very headstrong, stubborn little girl. She will not do something that she does not want to do and I don't want to force anything on her as that will only get her and me frustrated.

She has never been bothered about being in a soiled nappy. And she would quite happily sit in a wee/poo filled nappy all day if I'd let her.

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Nooproblemoo · 15/10/2021 14:00

I too have a headstrong and stubborn toddler. My DD is almost 3 and she decided she wanted to use the toilet a couple of weeks ago. She's doing brilliantly and I think it's because it was her choice. We have spoken about toilet training before but she said she didn't want to so we left it til she was ready.

She too hated nappy changes and would say she hadn't done a poo when she had, I think she couldn't be bothered with the interruption of getting changed. A month or so before she started using the toilet she did start asking for her nappy to be changed.

I don't have any tips for you as honestly they wouldn't have worked for my daughter, she wouldn't do anything she didn't want to.

For us it's been simple as it was her choice. Waiting worked for us personally but I know it wouldn't be right for others.

Good luck!

Brollywasntneededafterall · 15/10/2021 14:02

Pull ups make for an easier change!! And she can practice pulling it up herself big girl style!!

thinkbiglittleone · 15/10/2021 14:23

Get the book " oh crap" it's brilliant. Our son was done at 21 months,

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