Potty training non verbal 3 year old

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Evening everyone, my DD is 3.5 yo, I’ve tried her on the potty a few times over the past couple of months and she’s done both wee and poo, but I think it’s me who doesn’t dare go for it full on because she can’t talk and tell me when she needs to go. Do I just go for it and be persistent or wait a bit longer? She’s starting nursery in a few weeks time too xx

@RussianSpy101 yeah, I was thinking of trying to get a reward chart and stickers in her favourite character as a better indenture

@RussianSpy101 we’re in the process of getting a education plan and we’re hoping he’ll have one to one support in a mainstream school or we’re thinking about a school which is a 20 minute drive away which is for non verbal children. I’m struggling to make a decision though. The school for your son sounds great!

Thanks @Salpeg we got my sons EHCP in June, it’s invaluable and opens up so many more options.
The school further away would be great!

My LB is 3.5 and tells me when he is doing a wee or a poo but has already done it. Feeling slight pressure to get hi out of nappies from his nursery and other children around him being fully potty trained. He never goes long periods without a dry nappy but it fully aware what we use the toilet for. I'm unsure if he is ready or whether it is just me feeling the social pressure and trying to make him be ready. Any advice/tips would be appreciated. x

@Popandcrackle, just found this thread and your post is so similar to my situation. My DS just turned 4 , very little speech and potential ASD. We attempted potty training him at 2.5 but he just wasn't ready. We restarted in the summer, he still wouldn't tell us when he wanted to go but would have a wee if we took him to the potty. We have stopped using nappies for about a week now but he is still only saying he wants to go randomly or after he has wet himself. I have to keep reminding him amd taking him . He attends a private nursery and the big challenge is he doesn't go at all if they take him to the toilet so we have had to be packing lots of clothes as he is always having accidents. They're saying they can't carry on much longer as according to them he just isn't ready. I am getting very anxious about this. Sorry for rambling on, it's just a bit of a relief to find others that are in similar situation.

@Popandcrackle aww atleast he is trying, according to people I’ve spoken to including health visitor and her nursery teachers, even children who can speak still have accidents and still need reminding to go, because they are so busy playing/enjoying themselves they just forget.
I had intended to attempt it during half term but she came down with a sickness bug which wiped us out for the week, so we will try again at Christmas. I would of thought a private nursery would have more understanding! X

I completely understand, it’s reassuring that you’re not alone in these situations! I would have a chat with nursery because it may confuse him more if you were to go back to nappies at nursery. It definitely takes longer at nursery as my DD was not as comfortable there, she used to restrict fluids too so she wouldn’t need a wee. We ended up taking a week off nursery, no nappies and another thing I did was put the potty in the living room so she could go when she wanted to rather than having to tell us as she didn’t have the words at that stage. We’ve got to the stage now she takes herself at home but at school she has to be brought.

But if you feel he isnt ready don’t worry, it’s really tough for children with speech delays so they’ll get there at their pace ❤️