Desperate for advice

[cockneysparra1]

Hi everyone,

My little girl was 3 in March and we have been potty training for three weeks now. She has done lots of wees and poos in the potty and the toilet which are rewarded with lots of praise and stickers etc. My issue is she never tells us she needs to go. It has all been us getting her to sit on the potty for a good 25 mins and managing to catch one. She has a lot of accidents as will always say 'no' when we ask her if she needs to go. It's so hard being the one in with her all day cleaning up all the accidents and not being able to do anything. My instincts are she's still not ready but her dad is adamant we can't go back now. I guess I'm asking if this is a phase and one day she will tell me she needs to go? She knows that she's done a wee and will tell me straight away but never that she needs one. Thanks in advance from a very stressed mum.

Sounds like she's not ready - I'd say if they're ready it should be easy

Unless her df is home all day he doesn't get to decide imo!!
Or step back and let him crack on..

Or it could be that you are unintentionally putting pressure on her by asking.... My DD always said no in the early days but would then go and use the potty so the answer was obviously yes. I stopped asking and when I saw her hoping up and down etc would gently suggest we go and sit on the potty. Once we stopped asking it went a lot better.

Even now if she's doing something she really enjoys but clearly needs a wee she will hold on for a bit until either till a bit more desperate or the game is finished...

She's not ready. Also rethink the stickers and stuff, it's really not a good path to go down to reward what will become the perfectly normal with material things, praise all you want but if you pee here you get something suggests it's a choice she's making, which I doubt it is. Nor is it working! The motivation to wee on the potty should be things like, it's me growing out of being a baby, it's me being independent, my peers do it, my parents do it, it feels gross to be wet, it's embarrassing to make a puddle on the floor - not I get a sticker if I remember.

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Sounds like she's not ready - I'd say if they're ready it should be easy

I have 3 iids close in age. The youngest basically potty trained himself.

I had a friend who potty trained like crazy. Her kid was the last.

Why would a NT three and a half year old not be ready?

Hey so I wrote this on the 18th August and she's completely potty trained now so all good 😊 she was definitely ready and loved her stickers. Thanks for the helpful advice x

Hi - I'm in a similar situation. Did she start telling you that she needed a wee?