Potty Training Before Pre-School - Help!

[itskate]

Hoping that someone can help/has a similar situation?

My son will be 3 next week and we have tried potty training a couple of times over the year, each time he hasn't been ready and has point blank refused to go on the potty.

This time has been more successful, we have a reward chart which seems to do the trick. If we are at home all day we keep him with either nothing on or just pants on and after some coercing he will sit on the potty and do a wee or a poo, but with some reluctance. He very rarely tells us if he needs one instead I ask him to sit on it every couple of hours. We have had a couple of accidents that scare him a bit but on the whole pretty successful.

The problem comes when we are out, I have been putting him in nappies when we go out which I think is confusing him but I am not sure what to do because he isn't telling me he needs a wee. I don't really want to get a travel potty as would rather get him to use the toilet when we are out to save teaching him all over again and wouldn't get a travel potty out in the middle of the shops haha. Do I just take him out in his pants with spare clothes and hope for the best?!

He starts preschool in September so really need to get this cracked and it is really stressing me out. I don't know how to get him to tell me when he needs to go! Help, please!

Honestly you need to put a bit more effort in. Pants on at all times, take spares everywhere! Get a potty for emergencies, if you get a decent one they are handy for ages!

As for not telling you... Does he just wet then if you don't prompt him? If so then that isn't potty training, that's just you catching wees and getting lucky. Preschool will need him to tell them or taken himself off.

He has pants on at all times when we are at home and when we do go out it is for a short walk to the park or the shops to ensure he is getting fresh air, I am trying to keep him at home as much as I can whilst we are doing this.

Sometimes he will go and get on the potty himself (if he has no pants on and is naked) and wee or poo and then just tell me he has done it, or I ask him if he can sit on the potty but he has never said to me 'I need a wee or a poo'.

The nappies need to go. You need to just keep taking him or asking if he needs it. Once he starts peeing himself he'll realise and hopefully ask before it's too late.

Have you tried a toilet seat instead of potty. That way he might be more inclined to go in a toilet when u me out. We only lasted 2 days with the potty and went straight to toilet seat which was so much better and no cleaning out the potty 👍