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Is your child ready for potty training at nursery? Here's the place for all your toilet training questions.

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My son won't poo in a potty??!

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Mybabysmylife · 23/07/2021 17:46

I'm so confused in what to do!!
My sons been potty training for 2 weeks now he's not wee'd himself he doesn't have bedtime nappy's at all the nappy's was completely gone.

But he will not poo in the potty he says he's scared. I have tried everything possible researched things to help him. No luck. From 7am in the morning he is saying he needs a poo every second I haven't been able to get my house clean or do anything with my other children as my youngest wants me to sit on the floor near the potty to sing to him.. but he still won't do anything apart from wee on the potty. It's exhausting and I feel awful for him if he feels a poo he will jump off the potty and lay on the floor. It's every day all day im going to Scarborough in 2 weeks which means he will of done potty training 4 weeks and im dreading it with the pooing situation. It's for a birthday so im doing to be getting the travel potty out every second for him even tho I know he won't do anything but run away. Any tips? At this point everything will be better than no advise!!

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BlueSurfer · 23/07/2021 17:50

Sounds like he wasn’t ready to train and now is withholding. I’m guessing he won’t take well to going back in nappies which means you will probably have to go down the laxative route so he can’t help it. Better to try that than him continue to withhold and cause problems that last for years.

You can buy lactulose over the counter but it’s not good for teeth. Your doctor can also prescribe movicol or laxido. Be warned, it might be quite messy to get rid of any impacted poo but once you get going you can find a maintenance dose and stick with that for a while. It’s usually longish term medication (months and sometimes years) though rather than a one off or for a couple of days.

Postdatedpandemic · 23/07/2021 17:50

All of mine hated pooing in the potty. They were reasonably happy to use the toilet, with a seat and a stool for their feet. Worth trying?
Singing and stories were definitely involved.

BlueSurfer · 23/07/2021 17:52

Also get a bottle of bubble liquid as blowing bubbles can relax their muscles.

mumsnoangel · 23/07/2021 18:01

My daughter wouldn't poo on the potty or toilet for a long time after she was able to wee on the potty or toilet. We had a bag of pull-up nappies and she would put them on to do a poo. The most important thing of all is to make no big deal of it - it's really important they're not stressed and can be relaxed. At some point you'll feel that they are ready to give up the pull up nappy. That time for us came around six months later when we went on holiday and we didn't make the pull-ups so easily available when we were away. It soon resolved after a little bit of resistance. Good luck!

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Mybabysmylife · 23/07/2021 18:04

Hi everyone!
@BlueSurfer @Postdatedpandemic

I do have lactalose in the cupboard as my daughter suffers from hard stool I could use that!

Also he does like going on the toilet but he hasn't had a poo on it yet other than the other day his poo literally came out on the floor in the bathroom and I got him on the toilet and he finished it off as he couldn't hold it

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Mybabysmylife · 23/07/2021 18:06

@mumsnoangel I'm scared to do that as he's had not one nappy for 2 weeks. He's very clingy to things and it's hard to
Get him off certain things as he gets really angry. The training he did himself he had done it before he was 2 for a week then was petrified and I put the nappy's back on but he clings to things. I'm glad he did it as he's going to pre school and doesn't like people chanting his nappy so it's made me happy

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ILoveTracey · 23/07/2021 18:07

Paediatric movicol is amazing - you get it on prescription. It just loosens a bit as when they withhold it gets more painful to poo which then puts them off and leads to more withholding. We mixed it with mango lassie as lassies sometimes are salty so it takes the weird flavour well. Moved over to kefir after I realised how much sugar was in the lassie.

We also did a reward chart with a prize that they'd chosen at the end and worked towards.

With one of mine we had an absolute mare with my first until we had the no oak and bribery. t I bought an octonauts bundle and for the first 10 poos there'd be a fingers in the shelf then 5 later no figures but work towards a gup. With my second when he was withholding we went straight to movical and one reward chart were grand. Good luck.

Donteatpurplebroccoli · 23/07/2021 18:09

Have a look at oh crap it’s time to potty train for advice. If you don’t want to do that snd this isn’t from the book but friends of mine had same issue and put a nappy in the potty and once he’d got used to pooing in that they moved to smaller nappies then removed them... it worked for them. We followed oh crap and it took 4 days to get a poo in the potty (and a wee!) but from there on was plain sailing!! Good luck it is hard but worth persevering sounds like he’s done amazingly so far! Second the pp who said just stay relaxed about it getting stressed or causing him stress will only make it worse! Only need to explore laxitives if has caused constipation if he’s just pooing elsewhere then don’t do this!

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Mybabysmylife · 23/07/2021 18:15

@ILoveTracey hey! My son has only jsut started saying full sentences and having convos since April. I've tried the bribe he doesn't care he just started head butting the floor. I've tried bribing him with a biscuit right now he doesn't care he wants it now

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howdidigettobe50something · 23/07/2021 18:17

I agree with taking the pressure off and encouraging him to sit on the toilet with a story etc. I'm not sure how old he is but there's a story called poo goes to poo land which you can download online and read on the toilet. I wouldn't recommend using Lactulose unless he is actually constipated as it could lead to a cycle of needing it to be able to poo. It's really early days of potty training too so I really wouldn't be too worried at this stage.

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Mybabysmylife · 23/07/2021 18:21

@Donteatpurplebroccoli hey! I'm currently trying the nappy in the potty see how he goes!

@howdidigettobe50something
Hey! I have downloaded that. He thinks it's hilarious he's only 2 he turns 3 beginning of October.

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howdidigettobe50something · 23/07/2021 18:25

Yes it is funny isn't it! Hope it helps 😁

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Mybabysmylife · 23/07/2021 18:29

@howdidigettobe50something so far he go off the potty after watching it haha. He wasn't interested😥

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ILoveTracey · 24/07/2021 08:57

Do talk to your GP and get so's paediatric movicol. It really makes all the difference. The more they withhold the more painful it is to go, which means they withhold more. It's not like a laxative, just a stool softener. I also kept a stash of Ella's kitchen prune packets and lots satsumas.

Lemonlemon88 · 24/07/2021 08:59

Mine would wee in the toilet a long time before she would poo. We just used pull ups so she could get them down for wee.

lilyfire · 24/07/2021 09:01

Also check out Poo Goes to Pooland. Worked for my son.

Souther · 24/07/2021 09:04

I would just put nappy on them for a poo. And when they were older they were more comfortable pooing in the toilet.

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Mybabysmylife · 24/07/2021 09:21

@Souther I've just done this he's not pood yet but he has been up all night crying needing a poo but wouldn't go on the potty I'm really worried he's done brillaint for 2 weeks I've even been able to take him
Out because he would wee in the travel potty no problem he's never wet the bed I feel like he's going to want this nappy on for good now

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noblegreenk · 24/07/2021 09:30

My dd has been weeing on the potty for a couple of months but we have to put a pull up on her for a poo. I was concerned about this, but our childminder said it's quite normal for children to be potty trained for wees for quite some time before poos. She said dd will poo on the potty when she's ready. She's been a CM for 25 years so I trust what she says.

Twoforthree · 24/07/2021 09:35

Mine wouldn’t either. In fact he regressed on the weeing because he needed a pull-up because of the poos.

He was running around without his pull up once on holiday and I just happened to catch it as he did it. Then he realised there was nothing to be scared of and everything was fine.

I was worried at the time but looking back I’d say don’t stress about it, he’ll get there at some point.

billiebeeme · 24/07/2021 09:41

Switch to the toilet with a toilet seat that could work abd he'll understand it's going in the toilet. My eldest only did the potty for a day or so. So much easier on the toilet so no potty to clean out 👍

It's not uncommon for kids to do hold in poos.

My friends boy wld wear a nappy at bedtime and he wld poo in it every night, he didn't start training until 3 and was doing his closer to 4.

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Mybabysmylife · 24/07/2021 09:57

@billiebeeme hi. He does go in the toilet he's not scared of that or anything he's just scared of pooing if I wipe his bum he screams like it hurts him. He's been given some laxative to help soften it at the moment. He's asking for the toilet ever second but not doing anything I'm sweating walking up these stairs lol!

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billiebeeme · 24/07/2021 10:13

Aw that's a shame. Have you tried putting a nappy back on just to let him poo in it.

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Mybabysmylife · 24/07/2021 10:53

@billiebeeme hi! Yes I've tried all morning he rips it off and says he doesn't want it he wants his pants

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Mybabysmylife · 28/07/2021 18:32

UPDATE: my son finally had a poo after 3 days he couldn't hold any longer after I gave him abit of laxative it's softened it up a lot but not to make it diarrhoea. He's since then been going every day. It's been 3 days now he still gets abit scared now and again but with abit of encouragement of me saying he's a such a big boy he likes that then goes! Makes me feel so much better nowing he's not going to have it all laid on his stomach at bed time😭❤️

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