Potty trained 3yo accidents when out

[mamablondie33]

Hi
My 3yo is completely toilet trained (not just potty but big toilet) HOWEVER since lockdown has eased she is now having wet accidents in places like soft play and the park on quite a regular basis. This happened last time restrictions were lifted too, so I feel like we haven’t ‘nailed it’ so to speak.

It’s so frustrating and I don’t know what to do. Not only does she not tell me she needs to go but also doesn’t seem bothered she has had an accident. As I said she is completely fine at home and nursery, even car journeys.

Any advice would be much appreciated. I’m keen for her to get out and socialise but this is happening every time we do.

Are you reminding her / taking her at set times or just leaving her to tell you? X

@SleepingStandingUp I do prompt her and she says ‘no’, I make sure she has a wee at the start and then try to get her to come with me at intervals but very often she refuses or we go and it’s already happened. I just can’t make sense of it.

I think you need to be taking her earlier/ more often. She's little, she's having fun, so it's just not a priority for her. So she has to have a try when you say so.

Maybe have a conversation before you go out anywhere. Remind her what's happened before. Say you understand how hard it is when she's having fun and she doesn't want to stop to go for a boring wee, but if she has an accident you'll have to go straight home so that will spoil her fun completely.

She's not so little that you can't make a bit of a plan with her beforehand where you 'agree' she'll come for a wee at a set point (you can tie it in with a snack or something i.e. ' we'll have a wee and then we can have a snack/drink and you can go back and play'). Even if she totally backtracks on the agreement - as she probably will - having the chat ahead of time might help to make it easier to convince her. Good luck!

@scaredsadandstuck that’s a good idea about saying we need to go. I hadn’t thought of that, i just change her clothes and let her carry on but maybe being firmer will help idk.

Hope it helps. I don't think you even need to be cross with her about it, just along the lines of "oh that's a shame, well have to go as I don't have any spare things with me"