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Is your child ready for potty training at nursery? Here's the place for all your toilet training questions.

Anxious 2.5 year old

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Imicola · 30/05/2021 13:26

Hi all. We decided to try potty training this long weekend, with nice weather to help. DD is 2.5. She seemed keen in advance, and she knows what the potty is for. However, she is extremely anxious about weeing or pooing and can hold it for hours on end (she's usually fine so long as nappy is on).

On day 1 we had a few successes where she'd be hopping about, would get on the potty and release, but then stop again i think because she was a bit worried, but would be happy and excited that she'd done a wee in the potty. Day 2 holding it all in again, unwilling to sit on the potty at all, multiple accidents which would make her really upset. We're now on day 3, same thing. She's gone about 5 hours with no wee, clearly in extreme discomfort, but won't go, even in the paddling pool.

Any advice? We feel conflicted about the best approach. Stop and try again another time (although this is not the first time we've tried so i am worried about stopping and starting too many times). Remove potty and have lots of bare bum time in the garden to try and get her used to going? Or keep going with potty available? We're really trying to remove the pressure, but I'm sure she's still feeling it regardless. Should we just never even mention wee, poo, potty etc? And how to behave when she is clearly uncomfortable and as a result very grumpy? I hate this!

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Hfjshdhs · 01/06/2021 18:46

Just a couple of thoughts (though I don’t have the answer)...

  • does your daughter go to a nursery where they can advise/support? I found ours really helpful when we were doing it
  • do you have the next couple of weeks free to relax in the garden and see how it goes? I don’t know anyone who hasn’t been in the same position as you in the first few days
  • withholding poo is a route you really don’t want to go down. If she is withholding poo then can you say that she can have a nappy to poo in?
Coolhand2 · 01/06/2021 19:26

Have lots of bare bum if you can. We did that Just before my ds turned 2, we stayed a month bare bum and it helped. I wouldn't stop, I would just keep working on it and be patient.

Imicola · 01/06/2021 19:38

We had another day with no joy, then a day at nursery with no accidents and multiple wees. Two poos in her pants this evening but then a wee in the potty before bed. So i think she is partly just being awkward for us at home, but im happy to have some progress! Phew. We will keep on with it, and we're going to try being more forceful asking her to sit on the potty, as otherwise she just says she doesn't want to!

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Coolhand2 · 01/06/2021 20:38

That's wonderful progress. She will get it if you keep at it.

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