Hello all!
Son is 3.4 months old, speech delayed and diagnosed ASD. Spoke to family link worker last year regarding potty training and she said too young but to do some basic toilet training so underpants over nappy and show him pants up/down, poo into toilet, flush toilet, wash hands. Have been doing that for a while now.
Son hates the potty and the toilet seat attachment. I'm wondering if I should get one of those family seat things and try toilet training, bypass the potty all together as he's probably too big for it.
He doesn't tell me when he's had/needs wee/poo, he will tell me in the morning when I go into him that he's "wet" but that's it.
When changing nappy pants I keep him standing and he helps watch poo go into the toilet then says flush toilet and wash hands.
Please help as I'm not sure what to do! The other morning be didn't want his nappy on, just his trousers so I did that to see how he'd be, he had a wee and screamed but I did plenty of reassurance and comforted him.
Nursery aren't much help as one of the staff happily told me the other day that they'd "managed" to get him to lie down to change his nappy which both I and family link worker have told them not to do 
he finds lying down very distressing so I don't know how they've managed that.
Anyway, too early to toilet train?