Posting out of sheer desperation...
My DD, who turned 3 in Jan, and has been weeing on the toilet since 2, will only poo in her nappy at night.
Very very occasionally she will become so desperate for a poo during the day that she does one on the toilet at nursery. And she has done the odd one on the toilet at home, but that hasn’t happened for a few weeks.
So much of the answers/advice to only pooing in a nappy seems to be geared around them doing it awake (ie. getting them to poo in the bathroom in their nappy, then very slowly get towards the toilet), so I’ve got no idea where to go with the pooing when asleep situation.
Things we have tried:
- bribes, both chocolate (which she doesn’t have at all unless she has pooped, so that’s a big bribe), and also toys
- senna and lactulose (following advice from GP) with the idea that she couldn’t hold it in so would have to poo on the toilet. She ended up doing bits in her pants but still holding it in until the evening, and got very upset in the process
- star charts
- sitting on the toilet every night for 15 minutes before she goes to bed, and making her blow bubbles/blow up balloons, having the iPad on
- poo goes to poo land, various books
- putting a nappy on in the evening in the hope that she poos before bed in that
When she obviously wants to do a poo, we ask her if she needs to go and sit on the toilet. She says no and tells us that she will do it tomorrow. We have tried to force her to go, but she screams and it’s just awful. I don’t want it to become ‘a thing’. Suspect it already has done.
There are no special needs, she is articulate and understands that grown ups do poos on the toilet. She’s not being naughty, and so I can’t get cross with her. But it makes me so angry (obviously I don’t show it) that she knows it’s not the right thing to do but still does it.
Can anyone help at all?