potty training

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Hi,

I have a 2 1/2 year old son who is three in September.

We have recently started toilet training with him as he was waking up with more and more dry nappies.

We have been training him for the last two weeks whilst we have all been off as a family self isolating during covid.

He has been doing really well using his potty for no 1's and also sometimes using the toilet with the training seat.

He is still having a few accidents with no 2's.

We now only put him in a nappy before we put him to bed.

The rest of the time we put him in pull ups so it is easier for him to pull hem down when he needs to use his potty or we just leave him with no trousers or underpants on when he is at home inside with us.

His childminder has been happy with him wearing pull ups when he is with her and he has been using the potty at her house successfully with no 1's. No 2's he is still needing a bit more practice on.

The childminder is now saying that he will have to move back to wearing nappies when he is with her which we dont agree on at all as this is going to confuse him.

What can we do ?

Thanks.

Mat

From a childcarers point of view, pull ups are harder to change as you have to remove all the bottom half of clothing to replace, even if just a wee. A nappy can be put on or off by just pulling trousers down

Also, pull ups won't help with potty training, you'd be better off just using pants, imo pull ups just feel like a nappy so the child will be confused. See what your childminders thinks about wearing pants

thanks for your reply, it is good to get another childminders point of view. We have tried just pants on him at home and he just gets confused and wets them. At home he wears pull ups and just pulls them down himself when he needs a wee or we just leave them off him at home completely which i understand that he cant do that at the childminders. Nappies are harder for him to pull down himself when he wants to use his potty. I understand it takes more time for the childminder especially when there are more children to look after but to me putting him in a nappy is confusing him.

You really need to change to pants and do it properly pull ups are still nappy's and he won't know the difference. I've found the best way is to go totally lower half bottom free for two days then move to pants.

At home when he is with us he wears no pants at all or a pull up and he still uses the potty. Understandably we can't expect him to wear no pants when he is it his childminders. We have tried him with just underpants or just trousers but he has accidents in them. He seems to get on better just wearing pull ups or no pants at all.

I don't think the childminder should be putting him back in nappies against your wishes. It sounds like he needs consistency. If he is accident free when he has no pants on at all I would suggest transitioning to commando under trousers whenever he's at home - if you prefer you could try pants but I would try to start with just trousers as that will give him more of a bare bum feeling. Do that over a weekend or whenever he has a decent stretch away from the childminder so he can practice and then aim to use the same approach there. I'm not surprised if he has accidents if he is sometimes in pull ups as to a child they're really no different to a nappy.

A pull up is an expensive nappy!

You need to persevere with the pants or commando with trousers. I’d do it over a few days at home if you can.

yep this is what we tend to do mainly at home we just let him wonder round indoors with just a top on. However he cant do this at his childminders and she puts a nappy on him ?

Being naked from the waist down is different from going commando under trousers though. It's a progression. And for most children trousers with pants is a further progression. He can't be naked at the childminder's, so you need to work on getting him trained either commando or in pants.