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Potty training

Is your child ready for potty training at nursery? Here's the place for all your toilet training questions.

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Oh crap method ! Nursery says it’s too early !

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EgSk · 31/03/2021 08:32

Hi all ,

This post is going to be a bit all over the place ( I’ve had 4 hours sleep )!

I just finished reading the oh crap potty training book. My 25 month old has started showing small signs he’s ready such as pointing to his nappy & saying pee and hiding to poop . I wasn’t going to even think about potty training until closer to 2.5 however the book says 25 months is the perfect time to start . My husband is keen to start now as we are getting work done on our house in 2 months and will be living out of a tiny room for 3 months 😩

I mentioned to nursery that I’m thinking of starting in the next few weeks or so and they felt it was too early/ he wasn’t ready AT ALL . Later that day the nursery manager emailed be suggesting I wait to potty train as my son just transitioned to the 2-3 room five weeks ago . She has a point about that .

However my son is only in nursery 2 half mornings a week. If I start potty training in about a month he would have been in that room two months . Surely that’s enough time to settle ( according to nursery he settled seamlessly although he does cry at drop off). I also plan to take him out of nursery for a week to train him , even though it’s only two half days .

Is it really ridiculously early to potty train next month ( son will be 26 months ). Should I wait for more signs he’s ready or trust the book? Does his nursery know best or are they just worried about accidents and more work etc .

Cheers !

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FolkSongSweet · 31/03/2021 17:54

Trained DS at 18 months using Oh Crap and it took 3 days. He couldn’t pull his own trousers up and down so we had to help him with that but otherwise all fine. He is nearly 3 now and I cannot imagine having had another 18 months of nappies and still having to change them now 🤢. My friends who have waited longer haven’t found it any easier.

YukoandHiro · 31/03/2021 17:55

I know @dementedpixie - I'm not worried. Just wish I hadn't put myself through the nine months of accidents and soiling and waited a bit as nursery had suggested, even though she was already at the older end

RowenaCoxwell · 31/03/2021 17:56

I’ve never heard of oh crap, I suspect it didn’t exist when my DCs were little (now 24 and 21)! I started DD at 18 months, she seemed ready and at the time it seemed “the norm” to aim for 18 months. She was dry in a week so obviously right for her. DS was a bit later at 20m but again dry within a few days. So OP if you think your LO is ready then it’s worth trying.

Sidewalksue · 31/03/2021 18:04

The problem can be the younger they may not be able to hold it for long periods. Someone at playgroup pottery trained DD very young and then just took them the bathroom every 15 minutes. I suspect that’s why nursery might not be keen, if there is no one to take them and they can’t hold it they will just have accidents.

maddiemookins16mum · 31/03/2021 18:05

2 is fine to at least try. It used to be the norm (before cheap nappies/pull ups came along).

AmIaboringfart · 31/03/2021 18:10

My now 6 year old didn't potty train until 6 months before she started Reception, she just wasn't ready, we still have the occasional accident now if she doesn't recognise the signs in time. So there's plenty of time.

AmIaboringfart · 31/03/2021 18:11

Sorry should of said, she was 3 and 9 months when we started.

Mallysmomma · 31/03/2021 18:13

I’m a nanny and a mum so I’ve toilet trained 7 little ones and they have all been ready at different times 4 were day dry around 2 and a half one was dry a week before a her second birthday and 1 was almost 3 (twin to the one who trained early) so each child is different and on their own schedule. I would suggest going for pull ups for nursery as they are basically a nappy that can go up and down so will catch all accidents but allow DC to use toilet if needed. As they only go a couple of days a week that won’t confuse them too much. Good luck. X

Streamingbannersofdawn · 31/03/2021 18:18

They should be following your lead and if they only have him 2 mornings a week I'd say their opinion that he is not ready isn't fully informed.

I run a child care setting and children come at all toileting stages. I would never presume to tell a parent that they need to wait to train. If after giving it a go things were absolutely not working I'd have a chat but if you want to try that's absolutely your prerogative.

Sometimes staff might give me an opinion that it's too early, the child is having accident etc but actually, its not about their convenience its about the child and their family.

Allgirlskidsanddogs · 31/03/2021 18:19

I didn’t use this method.

We tried just after 2 years old, my DD wasn’t ready. My DD pooped on the loo at 30 months and showed she was ready. The following week we arrived at nursery with plenty of spare clothes and they were very sceptical about her readiness, a little while later they admitted she had been ready and she only ha da few accidents - learning the hard way that when you’re playing outside in waterproof dungarees it takes a little longer to get to the bathroom etc.

If you think he’s ready then try it!

Brokenrecord3006 · 31/03/2021 18:20

Definitely not too early if your son is ready. My DS trained recently at 26 months with Oh Crap and it was pretty straightforward. His childminder was very supportive and although I can see how a nursery might be different, it's only two mornings per week. I'd be tempted to tell them you're cracking on and see how it goes.

IDontDrinkTea · 31/03/2021 18:36

Definitely not too early. We potty trained dd at 21m with no issue using that method

Wbeezer · 31/03/2021 19:02

I didnt use a method but trained DS1 at 20 months, it was summer and he had chicken pox spots on his bottom so i went for the naked approach. It was fine and he was dry at night after a couple of weeks too. However i used cooth nappies which does help due to awareness of wetness and DS1 had got into a routine of peeing when put in the bath and I used to catch it in the potty. this became a nightly game and shows that he probably had some control.

Unsinkablemoll · 31/03/2021 19:32

Crack on. If you find it's too early you can try again in a month or two. We found it wasn't a seamless three days as oh crap seems to suggest but we did crack it pretty quickly (tried at 21 months and again at 25. 25 months has been successful, just working on poos now but he is dry at night which is great going)

Mamibaer · 02/04/2021 06:02

We are just about to start with our 26 month old. He’s showing signs he might be ready and we have time over Easter. We’re planning to loosely follow Oh Crap (back in nursery next Wednesday so probably with pull-ups rather than the recommended commando

redpurplebuttons · 02/04/2021 06:09

My eldest was 2 years 5 months and it was fine. Sorted in a couple of days. She didn't really shown any signs of being "ready" to be honest, I just gave it a go!

There is a bit of a trend for waiting until they're much older these days. Not saying that's wrong but just something I've noticed. Particularly on mumsnet!

Lulu1919 · 02/04/2021 06:17

My daughters were in knickers at 2yrs old during the day ..odd accident
One still needed a nappy at night until 31/2 the other was dry at night too
My youngest who was dry say and night hated using a potty as she hated seeing what she produced so she went straight the loo really .
But they were ready....I feel I didn't really potty train them at all !?

SnuggyBuggy · 02/04/2021 06:25

I imagine many parents put it off because it does take time and mess in most cases which isn't easy if you're feeling burnt out and tired.

It sounds like some people are holding out for the child being so ready that they become really enthusiastic and just train themselves to use the potty but then I always wonder what if they never show this enthusiasm.

I just got to the point where I was sick of changing nappies, potty training was hard but by that point the thought of going back to changing nappies was worse.

maddiemookins16mum · 02/04/2021 17:25

@redpurplebuttons

My eldest was 2 years 5 months and it was fine. Sorted in a couple of days. She didn't really shown any signs of being "ready" to be honest, I just gave it a go!

There is a bit of a trend for waiting until they're much older these days. Not saying that's wrong but just something I've noticed. Particularly on mumsnet!

Yep, 4 is the new 2 when it comes to MN and toilet training.

Cherrytree1621 · 11/04/2021 10:46

If you think he is ready do it! My eldest just turned 2 when I done it with him and he took to it very well though all kids are different.
You know your son better than the nursery staff.
Also I work in a nursery and we are always to be supportive of parents who wish to potty train their child at any age, who are they to tell you what to do with your child.

Wingingitsince2018 · 11/04/2021 10:54

We did OCPT starting at the beginning of Feb when DS was 26m. It took longer than the book suggested but after a month he was mostly accident free during the day. Honestly it is so much easier than faffing with nappies now, and when he does have a rare accident it is a similar amount of clean up to a nappy change. I really recommend a carry potty for taking out and about with you. DS struggled more at nursery but we ended up taking his potty there for him to transition which worked well. He now uses their toilet quite happily and most accidents are because he didn't quite make it in time as he realised too late as he was having too much fun playing. We haven't attempted nighttime yet and don't plan to for maybe another 6 months.

wonkylegs · 11/04/2021 10:58

It really depends on the child one of mine was potty trained at just over one, the other was nearly 3. Same parenting technique for each of them just different kids, they were ready when they were ready.

ReadingIsFundamental · 11/04/2021 11:03

Both mine were 25months when they were trained it was perfect timing for them. I was prepared for it to be this stressful, difficult thing and it was fast and simple. Younger kid was only 1 month when I was training the older kid, too. Don’t overthink it, if you think your child is ready just go ahead and try.

Panda368 · 11/04/2021 11:08

We did this over Christmas when our toddler was 2 years 2 months. It was rubbish, it was also a pretty rubbish January but by feb he had basically “got it”.

I’m glad it’s done now, he still has the occasional accident during the day but that’s usually if he is teething or ill/tired.

We have NOT attempted night training yet.

It depends on your toddler, I think waiting to 2.5 is too late personally but it definitely wasn’t the one week and done situation that is promised in the book. I would recommend buying in extra kitchen roll because you get through a lot! And be prepared for it to be a shit.

TankGirl97 · 11/04/2021 11:09

I don't know that method, but 24 months isn't necessarily too early. My dd was potty trained then (entirely led by her). Both ds's were potty trained day and night by the time they were 2.5 years. I've always believed in not pushing it, they do it when they are ready.

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