Not sure what to do now

[Redruby2020]

Hi,

I have been active on other threads to do with subject as also at that point now myself.

So I really do agree with what the HV said, that my DS being so curious and smart and likes to do things, that he would of cracked it last year age 2-3. We had a fantastic year weather wise too, spa good time to go bare.
And I had bought him a potty and left it there for when he came home he ran to it, did used to sit on it even asked to do a wee one day when my mum was with him. So annoyed we let it slip, but we were then looking to move in our own place, and one thing and another got in the way and left it.

So now the panic is on because of course he's 3 so it's got to be done, and nursery is approaching although they said they would help etc. I bought a toilet trainer seat too with a step part attached, was recommended on here, we did put it on and he had a look etc and that was that. Says he doesn't want to use either items now, I feel because I'm now asking as opposed to him just doing things. I don't know what to do as each day is passing and not getting anywhere.

Plus got stress with my ex(DS's dad) and trying to do everything else too, so feeling the pressure. It gets easier to just leave him in pants and get on with the day, as things just build up that need doing and easier to leave it, but then I know we can't do that either as not helping!

Please any ideas or suggestions something that has worked that is as easy as possible, thankyou.

We followed the oh crap method with our 3 year old. She was reliably dry by 7 days, and fully dry by week 2, we then did night time as well within the first month.

You nerd to be at home for the week, no plans and focus 100%on potty training

@Lazypuppy

We followed the oh crap method with our 3 year old. She was reliably dry by 7 days, and fully dry by week 2, we then did night time as well within the first month.

You nerd to be at home for the week, no plans and focus 100%on potty training

Thankyou so much, this is what I needed to hear! Yes I have heard the 'oh crap' book? Mentioned a good few times, not sure if I can download possibly that would be good, where did you buy it. Thanks again.

Just relax and don't let him feel the pressure, honestly that's all we had to do for it to happen, it had to be his idea and as soon as we just were like 'meh' and didn't mention it he went and honestly was dry in a few days, could hold his wee until needed to go then dry nights came a few weeks after, he was almost three.
We used books pirate Pete and skip to the loo - skip to the loo worked wonders and got him pooing on the potty after two reads.
We used small balls like marbles in the potty and he enjoyed trying to wee on them (sounds gross but enough of a novelty that it was a game and not 'using the potty')
We also got a toilet seat that was an integrated small seat on top of a adult seat and just looks normal and he was happy to use that aswell.

Good luck, it does come just when they decide!!!!

Shouldention, reading the books were selerate to being around the potty, we read them at bedtime for nighttime stories to normalise it not make it a 'read this then use the potty'

@SlB09

Shouldention, reading the books were selerate to being around the potty, we read them at bedtime for nighttime stories to normalise it not make it a 'read this then use the potty'

Oh lol no I know that, I thought there was a book for parents, as in the 'oh crap' one?

@SlB09 For example as I said, my DS showed an interest last year, and I didn't take advantage of that, so the poor soul lost out. So I get it now that I've gone and bought this seat thing and put the potty back out he's thinking ha! Now you want me to do it 🤣
So when I am changing him and he says as he has done 'no I don't want a nappy' should I follow his lead and just leave it off

We used the 'oh crap' method with DTwins at 2.5 years. we bought a potty each just before first lockdown last year but didn't really commit to potty training. They sat on it a bit and had a treat if they managed to go but wasnt real 'training'.
After reading the book I took off a few days from work so we had a long weekend to do the methods suggested. After a few days they were still having accidents but nursery really helped. We left them 2 weeks and then removed nap and night time nappies and woke them up a couple of times a night. It took a few months before they started waking up on they own. They are nearly 3.5 and night time accidents are getting rarer.

The biggest take away from the book was to commit. We attempted it a few times but never committed. Once we read the book we decided the day we would start and me and DH agreed that was the end of nappies. It didn't matter how it went we would not be using nappies outside of naps again.

Yeah there's a parent's oh crap booklet but to be honest, in my opinion, it doesn't tell you anything you probably don't know or havnt already read by now.

Yes I would follow his lead, if you do t you are reinforcing the need for nappies. If he's feeling confident enough and happy not to wear one then praise him say 'the pottys there if you need a wee' (or we had to say 'tell mummy or daddy if you need a wee' this worked better for him for some reason) and go from there.n. I'm vaguely remembering a website (??pampers can't remember) that almost had a personality quiz for potty training and it was spot on for my LB, so if he's the type of child that pushes back if he feels like he's being told what to do give him space and time until he feels it's his idea to do it and it will come. Or if he's the type that needs routine and direction then build this into his day and so forth.

We didn't take time off work or attempt to crack it in a few days as my LB would have just been like 'nope'! He's very independant and it needed to be his choice for it to work, plus on a personal level I didn't feel the need to be like 'right this weekend you will be potty trained'. Also didn't wake him up in the night or anything, once he'd got it he'd got it as it was his choice and he'd chosen not to have nappies anymore. He did need to have pants on for the first few months when sleeping as he did wet twice when he didn't (I guess it's still the nappy/there's something there feeling). One tip from my sister though was to jump on the nightie dryness when it happens as she thouh 'well I'll keep a nappy just incase' and then the window had gone and her LG started to wee in the nappy again - this advice made me keep them off and we've had no trouble since.

I do realise however it's not that easy for some children but hopefully he's almost ready to go for it xx

Here's the link for the quiz

www.pull-ups.com/en-us/potty-training/program/child-personality

@SlB09

Yeah there's a parent's oh crap booklet but to be honest, in my opinion, it doesn't tell you anything you probably don't know or havnt already read by now.

Yes I would follow his lead, if you do t you are reinforcing the need for nappies. If he's feeling confident enough and happy not to wear one then praise him say 'the pottys there if you need a wee' (or we had to say 'tell mummy or daddy if you need a wee' this worked better for him for some reason) and go from there.n. I'm vaguely remembering a website (??pampers can't remember) that almost had a personality quiz for potty training and it was spot on for my LB, so if he's the type of child that pushes back if he feels like he's being told what to do give him space and time until he feels it's his idea to do it and it will come. Or if he's the type that needs routine and direction then build this into his day and so forth.

We didn't take time off work or attempt to crack it in a few days as my LB would have just been like 'nope'! He's very independant and it needed to be his choice for it to work, plus on a personal level I didn't feel the need to be like 'right this weekend you will be potty trained'. Also didn't wake him up in the night or anything, once he'd got it he'd got it as it was his choice and he'd chosen not to have nappies anymore. He did need to have pants on for the first few months when sleeping as he did wet twice when he didn't (I guess it's still the nappy/there's something there feeling). One tip from my sister though was to jump on the nightie dryness when it happens as she thouh 'well I'll keep a nappy just incase' and then the window had gone and her LG started to wee in the nappy again - this advice made me keep them off and we've had no trouble since.

I do realise however it's not that easy for some children but hopefully he's almost ready to go for it xx

I can appreciate the part about night time, without sounding selfish lol my DS is sleeping in my bed at the moment, only been here a few months and had alot going on, when we moved in he only had his cot which he won't use anymore and still to buy a bed, so the idea of him wetting the bed especially mine is a bit of a nightmare, with limited space and don't currently have a good washing machine as in it is too small and can take around 3 hours to do a wash, plus I have barely any drying space, so I have to be practical at the same time.

[quote SlB09]Here's the link for the quiz

www.pull-ups.com/en-us/potty-training/program/child-personality[/quote]
Thanks for the link! I've been having a look just now, some helpful tips!

What worked for us was massive praise from her favourite grandparent - a big cheer and how clever she was.

Oh bless him, he maybe just needs to be settled abit before another change. If nursery are happy to help then maybe just wait until he goes, then it can kind of be a 'at nursery we use the potty'/toilet' and he'll see all the other boys and girls using it and realise it's completely fine. My little boy responded very well to the influence of other/older children 'Im a big boy' (although this led to 'big boys don't have naps & big boys don't need to hold hands ).
Honestly if they aren't pestering to get him trained before he goes just read the books, leave the potty out, infarct get a few and leave them in various rooms and wait x