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Should I put nappy back on DS after he is potty trained?

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Chrisluvb · 12/02/2021 14:18

My DS is turning 3 next month and we managed to potty trained him last September when he was 2.5 year old. He is now off nappy both day time and nightime. I bought a portable potty for him so basically he just wee in it whereever we go. He has been doing really when until recently he always waits until the very last minute to the potty and dribble on his pants. Also, now he only wants to wee in the boot of our car (we put the potty there for him). So we can't really go far with him as whereever we go he just want to go back to the car to wee. There was once we didn't return to the car quick enough and he just wet himself on the street.

My husband is not happy about this. He said our activities should not be dictated by the fact that DS needs to go back to the car to wee. He also suggests that we should put nappy back on DS, not for him to wee on but to let him wear it as an underwear (to be precise, an underwear that can prevent accident).

I am totally against this because I think this is a learning process and transition period for DS. I see no reason why we should put a nappy back on him. And this will certainly confuse him. But my husband disagree with me. He said I am just following the book without flexibility. He says by putting a nappy on DS we don't have to worry about finding places for him to wee and we and go to mare places further away from the car. We argued on this issue several times already.

What do you think? Can someone share your experience? Thanks a lot.

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user1493413286 · 12/02/2021 14:26

The part that I don’t understand is that if it’s just put on him in case of an accident then will you not return to the car if he says he needs to go? Because your DH says it’s just in case of an accident but then you’ll still go quite far from the car knowing you might not get back in time. If I’m confused by why he’s wearing a nappy then so will your DS.
How far away from your car are you wanting to go? I get DD to do a wee before we go on a walk knowing that once she’s done one she’s unlikely to need it in the next hour or at least half an hour so we’re safe for a while. Is there also a bit of a novelty of weeing in the boot of the car? My DD was like that with restaurants and would ask to go about 4 times whenever we’d go out.

Choconuttolata · 12/02/2021 14:30

No need to put him in a nappy, that will just confuse him. Get him used to using the potty before you leave the car and also get his Dad to start teaching him how to do stand up wees so that you can progress to outdoor stand up wees if caught short.

Chrisluvb · 12/02/2021 14:52

We always ask DS to wee before we leave home/ car. I used to take him to the toilets in restaurants/department stores. But now with the Covid and lock down, first we can't easily find a toilet (only in the supermarket); second I don't really want to take him to public toilets; third he refuses to go to the toilets now since he set off the dryer in a toilet once and he was totally scared by it. That's why we started to put the portable potty in the boot and let him use it.

The question you asked is rightly to the point. I am confused by my husband's idea too. I actually think he will just let DS wee in the nappy when DS has to go. Which is totally obsured in my opinion. But I can't talk him through it.

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Ohalrightthen · 12/02/2021 15:24

Why are you taking a toddler out and about in national lockdown anyway? Use this time at home to fix the potty problem.

Chrisluvb · 12/02/2021 15:38

He needs exercise. We are just taking him to a park within walking distance. We drive firstly because he wees a lot and secondly he only naps in the car. Can't stay home fixing potty problem all day right?

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Ohalrightthen · 12/02/2021 15:42

But the issue is that he won't use the potty unless it's in the car, so you need to get him using the potty again. If i were you, I'd do that at home, where he feels secure and comfortable.

How frequently is he weeing? If it's too frequently to make it to the park and back (I'm assuming this is two hours tops) then I'd think about seeing your GP, as that can be a sign of health issues.

BernadetteRostankowskiWolowitz · 12/02/2021 15:46

Just go to the park on foot. Pee before you go, stay an hour or so, pee first thing at home.

Dont put him in the car for naps. At 2y11m he will surely be reducing his naps? He can just rest on the sofa at nap time or lay in his bed with a book.

cupofdecaf · 12/02/2021 16:02

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Take it with you in a bag etc and he can wee wherever.

Chrisluvb · 12/02/2021 17:24

He wees within an hour after drinking a big cup of water. He drinks a lot. Perhaps I really need to talk to the GP about that 🤔

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Chrisluvb · 12/02/2021 17:26

Thank you. That's a good one. Meanwhile he only wees when he sit in the potty. He doesn't know how to stand up to wee yet. So we got him the oxo portable potty which us really good for him. But I think if he knows how to stand up to wee, it will get a lot easier

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Lazypuppy · 12/02/2021 17:29

Just take the potty out with you on your walk?

My dd is potty trained and we have the potty in the back back all the time, she needs to.go we just whip it out easy peasy

Twizbe · 12/02/2021 17:35

My son is a bit like this. Since lockdown he's refused to go to any public loo and is also scared of hand dryers.

I would get him checked for the frequent wees and drinking lots.

Then start to retrain his associations a bit. Make him do a going out wee before you leave the house. Every single time. If he doesn't do it, you don't go out.

Then at the park, do a going into the park wee before you leave the car, again if he doesn't do it, go home.

Start using the potty at home in different locations including the garden to get him used to it again.

To some extent you are going to have to plan your life around his need to go to the loo for a while. That's life with toddlers. You can't keep them in nappies just to make your life easier.

LatteLoverLovesLattes · 12/02/2021 17:39

Just stop pandering to him. Take the potty with you & make him use it. He might prefer the novelty of the car boot, but it's not always practical. Tell him
You are walking to xyz so he can use the potty here/now or hold on until you get home/back to the car. Explain to him that if he can't edit he can ask for the potty at any time. Then tell him off if he chooses to wait, but wets his pants. He's been dry long enough to know when he needs to & if he can wait or not. Same at home.

No to the nappy.

cupofdecaf · 12/02/2021 17:58

Re standing wees- your DH needs to show him. Bit weird but otherwise how is he meant to know.

ThrowItOnMe · 12/02/2021 17:59

If you're taking him to the park, then teach him how to do a stand up wee behind a tree. So much easier and hygienic than public toilets!

Chrisluvb · 12/02/2021 18:20

Thank you for your input. I can't agree more. That's why I argue with my husband. I told him his idea is the weirdest thing I have ever heard😅

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BernadetteRostankowskiWolowitz · 12/02/2021 22:03

@cupofdecaf

Re standing wees- your DH needs to show him. Bit weird but otherwise how is he meant to know.
Also, 3yo butt cheeks are so cute when they learn stand up wees.
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