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Potty training

Is your child ready for potty training at nursery? Here's the place for all your toilet training questions.

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3yo DD has regressed

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Absy · 01/02/2021 16:29

My DD is 3, and in November we managed to do really well with potty training. We started with a couple of days with her being dry all day, and then she just carried on really well. However, in December she travelled with my DH and DS (I couldn’t travel at the time so stayed home), and she regressed completely. Since then it’s been touch and go. She will go sometimes, but it often feels like a big fight to try and get her to go to the potty. She improved for a bit, but then her nursery had to close because they had a case of covid and she has had a cold, and she’s had quite a few accidents. She will go if I take her and then sit with her until she goes. I’ve asked her if she wants to wear nappies or stay in big girl pants, and she insists she wants to be in pants. However, if she is in nappies (eg around bed time) she’ll just go in the nappy.

Any advice? I’ve thought of just putting her in nappies for a week or two but she gets offended at the suggestion of not wearing big girl pants. I strongly suspect if things were more routine we would be fine, but it’s unlikely to be normal any time in the future. I’m genuinely concerned I’ll have to send her to university with packs of pampers

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angelopal · 01/02/2021 16:33

I posted the same the other day. My DS has regressed in lockdown. We are in Scotland so nursery is closed for the foreseeable. With him its lack of attention I think. Both working and older child to homeschool.

I would carry on and lots of praise when she manages. We are doing this and it's getting better.

mamaof2girls · 01/02/2021 16:34

When she travelled did she have the nappy on? She could be confused would take all nappy's away at night be a option and see how she goes? Specially if she is going soon as the nappy is on. She knows she has the option off going in the nappy at night so could be waiting! X

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Absy · 01/02/2021 16:39

She does seem to be holding it in. She won’t go for ages unless I make her sit, or if I put her nappy on for bedtime she fills it within minutes.
When she went away, they travelled early in the morning so she was in PJs and nappy. But she kept on having accidents the whole time they were away - we’d packed nappies for night time and some spare as well as pants, and she had accidents in all the pants.

I asked nursery (when she was there) and they said she was doing really well. I also don’t know if it was the peer aspect - she and her friends all get taken to the bathroom together.

Maybe I just keep taking her once an hour? This morning I sat with her and read her books while she sat on the potty and she eventually went.

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Absy · 01/02/2021 16:40

Yesterday she pooped in her morning nappy and I asked why she didn’t go to the potty and she said “because I have the nappy”. I don’t know if she’s lazy or just super efficient

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mamaof2girls · 01/02/2021 17:19

Maybe try taking her off the night nappy's does sound like she knows she has the nappy option taking them all away would mean she has no choice but to use the toilet! X

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Absy · 01/02/2021 19:10

I’ll have to try and get them off her as soon as she wakes up. She still pees in them during the night, and trying to do night training at the same time as day seems til much. We have a Thomas potty that is supposed to make a noise when you go, I just never put the batteries in. I might try that as well

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mamaof2girls · 01/02/2021 20:43

I know it seems much (I ain't started training yet my little one just turned 2 and she didn't understand when I first tried her) but all nappy's off at once my mum swears by it she's has 6 also she raised my niece and nephew done it that and so did my sister with my other nephew. She already has the understanding as you have said she's done it before she knows it. Eaither that she's just testing the boundaries to see what happens and if she can get away with it! X

mamaof2girls · 01/02/2021 20:45

Also do you limit what she drinks after a certain time? Like no liquid after dinner maybe help her be more dry at night and not really use the nappy? X

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Absy · 01/02/2021 20:52

We try to limit drinks. So she’s encouraged to go to the potty before bed. I have had some mornings were it’s almost dry but not consistently.

I think it’s likely testing boundaries. She’s a VERY strong character and testing boundaries is what she does almost all the time. I also think it might be that she wants something familiar with all the changes, back and forth from nursery, big bro homeschooling. Nappies are familiar and easy

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