3 year old refuses to give up nappies

[brewingno2]

Please someone give me a bloody tip

So far we've tried a potty she choose, toilet seat trainer seats. Rewards charts. Clapping signing dancing when she did 1 wee.

Honestly loosing the plot a bit! I've only got 5 months till my baby is born and if possible need her out of nappies. She doesn't seem to know when she's going to wee. When I leave her nappy off she always complains for one and then holds her wee till she does a big one on the floor.
It's been a year and half of trying, at a loss!
Buying a small toilet one today in hope it works but not feeling hopeful
Most of my friends kids aren't in nappies anymore and they are younger! Feeling a bit embarrassed like I've failed somehow

'I'm thinking I might have to bribe her with chocolate ffs! But that's not exactly the best idea is it ha'

That's where you're wrong op. Bribing with chocolate/stickers/cake or any means possible works a treat! My dc trained just before 3 within acouple of days. He skipped the potty and preferred the seat that goes on the toilet with little steps attached and handles. It was honestly a breeze with minimal accidents compared to friends i know who trained alot younger! We started by letting him sit on the seat almost like a chair fully clothed with his fav show on a little ipad and choc buttons so he got comfortable. Then when he was used it and liked it we started potty training, took away nappies cold turkey except for night time. We got massive pack of cheapy underwear and plenty spare joggers for when we went out. A towel went under in his carseat just incase. He was trained within days. We made big fuss of him when he did wee on the toilet with choc and stickers and he soon got the message! Acouple of weeks later he was dry over night and he lost his nappy pull-ups at nighttime too. Don't give up, you can do this op!

Hi OP she'll get it in her own time. I would suggest waiting a few months to give you both a break. The mini toilet is worth a try. Some PPs have mentioned the one week method which is really good when the child is ready. Also it might be easier for both of you when the weather gets a bit warmer. Can she pull down, pull up her own trousers, pull up pants etc as that will help too when she's ready to potty train.

I think you need a proper break from it. Put her back in nappies for a month and dont mention it at all. Have you read "oh crap potty training"?

To comment on another posters comment I dont think 18m is too young for some children. I tried my eldest at 18m, she asked for nappies back after 2 days and that was fine with me, at 20m she asked for knickers and cracked it straight away. 2nd child cracked it in a week at 22m. They're all different but pressuring them wont work. If anyone is getting stressed you need a good clean break where it doesn't get mentioned

Mine would sit happily on the potty and do nothing, and then wee all over the floor a few minutes later. I eventually realised that although in principle she wanted to use the potty, there was something stopping her subconsciously. (I'm the same if I have to collect a urine sample - there's something subconscious that tries to hold it in.)
I said to her "You do know that if you go on the potty, it doesn't go all down your legs?" That seemed to be the problem - and once she'd managed it a couple of times, all was fine.

It may not be what's stopping your daughter, but it's possible.

I’d get the nappies back on and not even mention it for a few months.

If she’s out of nappies (just) when the baby arrives it might cause her to regress and want her nappies back anyway.

However if she’s still in nappies when the baby arrives, she may want to be the big sister and give up the nappies herself as a result of baby arriving.

Thanks for everyone for replying appreciate them all! Not so much the ones saying I'm silly for trying to potty train an 18 month old lol.

I've seen many 18 month year olds get it straight away and people do always mention it so it made me feel bad.

HOWEVER!!! we got a pink summer infant toilet with a flush that makes the sounds and my daughter walked over to it dropped her pants and peed on it within 20 mins of seeing it!!!

Anyone who is struggling I highly recommend getting a mini toilet! We now have a sticker chart and also chocolates haha and so far so good!!

The reason I wanted my daughter out of nappies for when the baby had arrived was

1. The expense of two lots of nappies
2. The rubbish would over flow! Having problems with them being emptied as it is unfortunately.
3. The time it takes to change each nappy and also if I need to suddenly deal with a poo where am I meant to put the baby! It's easier to wipe a bum and say well done isn't it. That's assuming it's not on the floor or sofa haha