Potty training trouble :/

[mariinaa]

My daughter is 3 next month, she is fine with going potty at home as long as she isn’t wearing any bottoms. As soon as we put her in knickers and trousers, she won’t go potty. We explained the knickers, that it isn’t a nappy and she always seems to understand, but still doesn’t go potty.

At first I thought she just forgets, but this has been happening since May. We tried rewards, a reward chart, doesn’t make a difference.

We make sure to regularly remind her just in case she needs to go, but unless we put her on potty ourselves, she won’t go. For example just recently I asked her if she needs to go, she said no. 15 minutes later, she did a number 2 in her knickers

Any advice?

Have you looked at the ERIC website? It’s primarily for childhood constipation but they have a whole section on toilet training that might have some good advice for you.

She will get it eventually, it’s so hard for you though

@mariinaa my daughter will be 3 in March. I’ve been trying to potty train since she was 12 months we introduced a potty chair and the regular potty. She potty’s at school just fine all the time. But refuses to potty at home. I’m at my wits end but I watched a YouTube video today of a doctor explaining that they just won’t do if if they aren’t ready. If they aren’t giving you the Ques like I have to peepee and that sort of thing they may just not be ready. But my daughter goes at school she just refuses to go at home. The one thing that we found that the video said that has helped is the reward has to be something that goes away like u can’t give them a toy because the. They think they don’t have to go again. But stickers are good. But when you use stickers anyone who goes potty family or even friends over for the day they all get stickers and the child will see that and want it. Half the time my daughter does better when she doesn’t have any bottoms on. Because I think they do forget it’s not something they can go in. I tried training panties cuz they are thicker so less. Mess with accidents but she seems to have more accidents in those over regular thin little cotton panties. I have a boy who’s 11 now and he was 100% trained at 18 months not even #2 accidents or bedtime. My daughter has been a nightmare. She straight tells her dad and I don’t want to potty on the big potty here I only potty at school. I have two nieces who also refused to potty train until they were 4 and both their parents were constantly trying and on it and taking them potty. They just didn’t want it. This you tube video Really helped us understand we were pushing a little and he explains on that. Idk it helped us a little it might give you some insight As well. Good luck to you as well mama. 😊

Have you tried going commando with some soft leggings?

Often Little kids don’t pre warn they need the toilet until the last second. Stop asking and start telling:

“Right it’s morning, loo and then we will have breakfast”
“Right let’s go to the loo and then head to the park”
No pressure but have her understand it’s part of the day. Maybe she goes at school because they defined play and lunch times and her friends go then.

@OnlyFoolsnMothers We have tried telling her. We would put her on and nothing. We make her get on and try and we ask her in between. She wet her panties like 10 times today so I said screw it finally tonight and went commando about 10 mins later she said “daddy daddy can you get me on the potty I had to go poop” (she had taken her step out of the bathroom) she knew she wasn’t gonna make it getting it herself and getting in and so he got her right on and she went and we had a big celebration and she got two stickers for going #2 but then she refused to pee on it the rest of the night. I thought it was going to be much harder breaking two habits at once we took her night time sippy away the other day the same day we took away diapers. She wears “night time panties” to bed (they are similar to pull-ups but look more like panties and don’t feel so much like a diaper. And we tell her they are panties and to not pee in them. But she’s actually done very well not having the sippy and she isn’t asking for one all day long too. I think it’s cuz she don’t want to drink cuz she don’t want to potty. And daycare told us she goes cuz she sees all other bigger kids go. She in the 3-5 room and has been since shortly after she turned 2 cuz she is advanced specifically in talking for her age and she would get irritated not being able to understand the kids she was playing with so they moved her. She’s been running info the bathroom to pee her pants so it’s not on the carpet. She peed In the exact same spot 4 times today. Even when there was a potty chair in her room just in case

Before putting knickers on have you tried an outfit with no knickers ?

Tbh I really wouldn’t bother night training. Kids stay dry at night because of a hormone.

@OnlyFoolsnMothers yes we tried doing just leggings or shorts first and she would just pee in them. Today she has refused to pee in the toilet at all she says I pee at school I don’t wanna pee here I try going potty at the same time with her and she still refuses. We’ve noticed if she is totally naked she does the best. But she still just refuses to go in the potty she was on the potty her dad took her off cuz she would not go in as soon as she got off of the toilet she stood right there in the bathroom next to the toilet in Peed on the floor. I am refusing to give back her diapers because that is exactly what she wants she wants to be able to just go in her diaper forever I don’t know if it’s a laziness or a manipulation of control or it’s just not as exciting get home as it is at school even though you have done everything under the sun to make it fun and exciting