2 days. No success. Normal?

[MummaBear4321]

My DD was 2 in november and we started potty training yesterday as both of us are at home. We also have a 7 week old (which DD has adjusted well to). She has been showing signs; taking herself to the potty to poo, pulling on her nappy and telling us when she has peed, waking up dry 30% of the time. We introduced pants yesterday, showed her the toilet seat and potty, explained it all. We tell her to tell us when she needs to pee, and saying we want to keep her pants dry. It's been all positive and calm. She has been telling us she needs to pee, but then when she gets to the toilet she shouts "no" and runs out. She hasn't peed on the toilet or potty once, and has had many, many accidents, usually after 4 or 5 consecutive attempts to go on the toilet. She is also scared of wetting the bed despite having pull ups on which means hysterical crying at nap and bed time.

This is normal right? We should just persevere right?

Anyone?

We should just persevere right?

I wouldn't. Take the pressure off. Leave it a while, she is very small still.

With a 7 week old baby I would leave it.

When you are ready to return to it keep her naked and everytime she starts weeing pick her up and put her on the potty and say you wee in the potty now.

Yeah, I wouldn’t push it. She’s not ready. Don’t make it a battle, back in nappies, try again in a few months

She's not ready. 2 is very young. Is it possible she's pretending she needs to go so she has your attention away from the new baby?

I potty trained my boys quite early. That said, it was really about me learning to know their signs and take them to the potty. To get them in a routine that when they are put on the potty, they use it, without distress.

If she's distressed, I'd let it go. It's not worth fighting over.

There's some good advice about going pants free for a while and reintroducing pants later. Mine all found pants confusing at the start. They thought it was a nappy.

Good luck!

No of course you shouldn't persevere. It's a physiological thing not a mental thing.

Revisit it in a year.

Thanks everyone for the responses. I was ready to give up this morning after 2 more accidents. Me and DH thought we will just put nappy pants on her and stop following her around with the potty, and then she had a poo and a pee in the potty, and a pee in the toilet before nap time, and she told us on all of them that she needed to go. I now have a renewal of determination.

Have to say though, this has been the hardest parenting thing I have faced since she was massively constipated at 3 weeks old and just screamed for hours and hours.

Take the pants off and let her go around with nothing on bottom half and make sure there is always a potty in the room

@wasthataburp that's exactly what we are doing! We started with pants on but it wad taking too long to take them off. She has just had a long sleeve t shirt on since Sunday morning. She hated being put on the potty so she is now choosing to go on herself when she tells us she needs to pee. It does take 10 goes of her getting on and off but she had 2 accidents this morning and then no more. All the rest were in the potty or toilet. We are rewarding any pee or poo with mini marshmallows 😆

But she can't go outside naked in this weather it's winter. She quite clearly isn't ready I wouldn't bother with the stress of it. Or rather I wouldn't now but with my first I would have. But wish I hadn't put myself through months of washing machine constantly on. But that's the thing as a parent you learn from experience

Give it up. My little girl is 2.5 and she also showed signs of interest a while ago (plus a couple of attempts), but now she flatly refuses anything to do with the potty.

I recently read that it is perfectly normal and acceptable for children of seven to still go to bed in night time diapers. And I read this in a sleep training book! It also stressed that parents are just way too anxious to get their child to “perform” within a certain time frame and instead we should be led by our children. They will let us know when they are ready - not the other way around.

Forcing a child (before they’re ready) could inevitably come out in other areas ie. their anxiety might lead them to suffer sleep problems (as I said I picked this up from a sleep book!) 😁

Just give yourselves both a break. I’ve decided to put the potty on the back burner and it’s nice to forget about it to be honest!

Makes sense.