Just turned 3 and no signs!

[strawbmilk]

Dd has recently turned 3 and is showing no signs of wanting the potty.

She has good understanding but is behind on her speech for her age.

Never tells us when she has used her nappy. When she needs a poo she runs into a room and shuts the door. When she does come out and I ask her if she has done a poo or needs a nappy change she says no and runs off.

We always praise her when she has done a poo. It's every other day and doesn't seem to have trouble going. Just likes her privacy (don't we'll all 😂).

She has a potty but ignores it.

She had the polly book about becoming a big sister and on the back there was the potty one and she kept pointing at it so I bought it for her. But no more interest after that.

We normalise going to the toilet. She comes in with me and is interested in what is in the toilet after and likes to flush it but won't sit on it herself.

Is it worth getting a seat for the loo?

Any advice? Have I done something wrong? I've always read when they're ready they'll tell you...

Try getting her a loo seat and see whether that’ll work. Also leave the potty in view maybe . Mine were both dry during the day by about 18 months old and one was dry through the night too. What worked was taking the nappy off during the summer and putting on big boy/girl pants when at home. It does take vigilance and perseverance. Yes, you may get a couple of accidents, but in the grand scheme of things it doesn’t matter. Also asked them whether they needed the potty when I could see the wee shuffle too . Good luck!

Stuck here too! DS has just turned 3 and no joy. We tried two months ago, as his nursery key worker offered to try so we figured it was a good opportunity. It didn't work - we held out for a month and had to give up. He was sitting in the loo and weeing (potty never worked), but he couldn't tell us when he needed to go. And no poo at all on the toilet. We had to.put him back in pull ups as it was clear he wasn't ready. We're trying again and it's the same. He'll wee when we take him (every hour) but he's still having accidents. He'll say 'I'm peeing!' but just can't seem to tell us before it happens.

I don't know if he's genuinely not ready or if he's being stubborn (he is VERY stubborn and insistent on doing things his way). I really don't want to give up again - and he's about to go into the 3 to 5 room at nursery so they are keen to have him trained.

DD was much easier, we tried when she was 2.6 but she wasn't ready. Tried again at 2.10 and it took about a week, then she clicked and it fell into place. No issues since.

I really don't want to force him if he's not ready. But I also feel so frustrated by it! He's a chatty boy, so he can communicate. I just feel like we've spent so much time on this and it's hugely stressful. Should we put him back in pull ups and wait? Going to give it a week and then decide.

Sorry to monopolise your post OP! But you're not alone in this. I hate potty training...

Thanks for your responses. Glad to know I'm not alone.

Paw patrol toilet seat ordered as paw patrol seems to be her favourite at the moment so it might get a bit more interest 🤞🏻

Over the summer she was without a nappy a lot in the garden and would just stop and wee on the grass.

I tried pants one evening and she just ran off and came back 2 minutes later and brought me to the front door mat where there was a puddle.

Towards the end of the summer she was sitting on my knee without a nappy and did a wee. It didn't even register with her that she'd done it and that we both were wet!

That is what makes me think she's not ready. No communication that she's done anything. Or when I ask if she needs a nappy change the answer is always no. When I change her nappy she is happy for me to do it and actually when she has done a poo she will learn forward to take a look at it.

Hopefully this seat might nudge her in the direction...