Does my 2 and a half sound ready?

[alwaystired234]

So I've been potty training since yesterday and I'm not sure if shes ready. We had one successful wee on the potyy yesterday right before bed and about 13 accidents during the day. She doesn't seem to know before that she needs the toilet only after or during shell run to the potty and doesnt really know what to do once shes sat on. Weve currently had about 3 accidents this morning and one poo on the potty but that's only because I put her on the potty when I saw her trying. I dont want to be inconsistent but also dont want to potty train her if shes not ready.

Sorry meant to post this in potty training

I would say it's too early to say. I used to put mine on the potty every hour for a few minutes at first just to get them used to sitting on it. They didn't always go but it made it less client to them. It is normal to have accidents at first.

I would give it at least a week if not two and if by the end of two there are still this many accidents then wait 6 weeks and try again.

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No, I wouldn't say she's ready if there are that many accidents. Try again in a month or so, or just let her lead it. My son one day just took my hand and said' I go to the toilet now' and off we went. In a week we were done. It's so much easier if you can let them lead it. (IMHO)

My eldest took to potty training pretty much overnight and the only reason I started her potty training was because I'd had a couple of comments about her being a bit old to be in nappies, not because there were necessarily and signs apart from knowing when shes weeing and occasionally sitting on the potty in a nappy. It's just a bit tough because I've made dh take the last of his holiday to have this week so that he can help out when I have to take ds to nursery.

I think it’s too early to say. It took 3 days of hit and miss/several accidents for my DS and then he cracked it on day 4. He was 18 months.

Mine, all at nearly 3.5, needed a couple of days of multiple accidents and sitting on the potty unable to actually “go” before they started to work it out. By a week in they were fairly reliably trained. That said, the one I tried at 2.5 I gave up because after a week they were still basically never succeeding in using the potty and it was demoralising everyone. Cracked it in a few days at 3. So basically, one day of accidents means very little, if you otherwise think they’re ready, but if it’s not clicking after a few days I’d give up. I would say though that my eldest would never have just announced he was done with nappies and trained himself - it happens for some children but there sometimes comes a point where you have to decide for them that they’re probably ready and give it a go.

Thankyou everyone, I'm just going to persevere for the rest of the week and fingers crossed she gets the hang if not well try again in a couple of weeks

It really depends. If you follow trendy modern approaches (not actually training at all, simply waiting til child does it with zero training), it's likely they won't be "ready" until age 3 or 4.

If you want to teach them to recognise the signals, you need to spend a good two weeks doing so before you can tell if they are or aren't ready. There will be accidents as they need to make the connection between the feeling and what happens.

Ps DS had accidents for about 4 or 5 days then it clicked. He was 23. We did the bare bum method and it really worked well.

23 months! Not years

I agree with pp. I wouldn't get too hung up on whether she's 'ready' or not. If this is a convenient time (i.e. with DH around) then I would persevere. If she's not ready it will take a bit longer with more accidents, but she'll get there in the end.

@NoIDontWatchLoveIsland

It really depends. If you follow trendy modern approaches (not actually training at all, simply waiting til child does it with zero training), it's likely they won't be "ready" until age 3 or 4.

If you want to teach them to recognise the signals, you need to spend a good two weeks doing so before you can tell if they are or aren't ready. There will be accidents as they need to make the connection between the feeling and what happens.

Yep agree totally. These “trendy modern approaches” were created by pampers, surprise surprise! However in our case it only took 4 days for wees for my son at 18 months. Poo took about 10-14 days because he didn’t have as many practice opportunities and I think it freaked him out about!

Update: I am going to postpone for a little bit only because dd is the most stubborn twonager and was getting very frustrated with the potty. Shes not one to stand down on if she wants to so something which is lovely for character building but difficult for every day life we'd also had 6-8 accidents and not even an inkling of needing to use the potty by lunchtime and I dont want to make her resentful if I persevere in a month or so

@alwaystired234 we have had a few stops and starts, my boy was very keen to start with and then grew resistant (similar age) I noticed he was also weeing 20 times a day, so he was havibg 5 or 6 accidents but doing it 15 times in the potty! Think he was getting pissed off at being in the potty all the time. We tried again and he was weeing about 12 times a day, he became bowel trained but not wee trained. Hes now 2 years and 9 months. He wees about 8 times a day, he has an accident sometimes every other day or every day. He has been accident free the last two days. He now has dry nights if I go in with the potty just before I go to bed. He won't ask to go on potty though, even though he did this at the beginning when he was weeing 20 times a day. But, we have made loads of progress, so don't feel bad about stopping and starting again. If they are resistant then there's no point battling them. Good luck.