2 yr old suddenly having lots of little accidents

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We start d potty training our DD 27m about 6 weeks ago I think it was. We had a few weeks of zero accidents recently where I breathed a sigh of relief and started to forget we were potty training at all as it seemed like she'd got it nailed now. Last weekend she suddenly had like two occasions iirc of starting to wee a little in her underwear prior to communicating her need for a wee. She was then fine all week at nursery but the last few days with me has been doing this about 3 times a day, always when at home or shortly after arriving home from being out. A few times she has communicated the wet to me before she went to the potty and a few times she has shown signs of being unhappy that they were wet.

What is going on though?! She seemed to have nailed it and now she seems to keep going to the potty slightly too late?! Which is not an issue she ever had even right from the beginning

Just a thought - she could have a UTI? That could cause her sudden need to go, or do small wees and then realise she should get herself on the potty?

I thought of that, but she didn't do it at nursery at all and yesterday her DGM looked after her and she didn't do it with her either? But did it once yesterday morning when her DF was looking after her. I guess I will see how she gets on at nursery over the next few days and I could call the GP if it continues at nursery.

Aaaargh this is getting worse! She was dry the whole time at nursery and with her DGM but had a few tiny accidents yesterday with me, like at least three in one day. Like just a little bit in her underwear prior to going to the potty. Then today so far she has now weed herself completely like a huge wee all the way through her clothes and not wanting to use the potty and then screaming and trying to escape when I was trying to take her wet clothes off. What is going on?! She's been out of nappies for almost two months now and as I say she had a few weeks of totally dry with no accidents and she is now only like this with me and DH and not nursery or her DGM. I feel so stressed now I thought it was basically sorted out weeks ago and now she's doing this which she never even did at the start of training as she took to it so well and there were never any tears. I dunno what to do but I can't see how I can put her back in nappies after being out of them for so long?!

Hi OP, I had this experience with two of my three DC - I thought it was all completely sorted and then we had a regression - so I think it is quite normal. I can't tell you why it happens though! Personally I didn't put them back in nappies as that would have seemed like a massive step backwards, but I did go backwards in terms of the potty training cycle (ie back to lots of reminders, praising success etc). As I say, I do think this is normal, so try to stay calm and not get cross about it (just like you wouldn't have got cross in the early days). Hopefully she'll be back on track soon.

1. Rule out UTI or constipation
2. Consider triggers. Is she getting distracted / engrossed / in denial about the need to stop playing?

Is she experimenting with how long she "can" wait. At home is a safe space to experiment. Have you managed to teach the "just in case" wee? So as soon as you get in you go? We still have battles with my 5yo about going before we go out, but she has mostly learned her limits on playing - I do have to nag/ pause the tv when I see the wee dance happening, but having to wait after the whole wee dance, deny need to go, other member of household occupies facilities, sudden panic/need to dash upstairs has slightly improved the situation.

There were definitely some control games going on once she was basically trained, sleep also got more difficult once she was dry at night!

DD (2nd child) decided at 2y 2m she would use the potty. Had a few days with no accidents at home. Decided to go with it even though it was a few weeks before Christmas. Had a few accidents at nursery but nothing major. She definitely took longer than her brother who we spent a weekend training at just over 3 (he was showing zero signs of being ready) to stop having accidents but also in general she did absolutely everything early and then regressed. It was almost like she looked around and thought why am I doing this now when no other bugger my age is.

Thanks everyone. Going out for a drink later so that's getting me this through this nightmare I feel anxious about nursery next week now and the thought of taking her anywhere if she's decided she's just going to stand there and wee all the way through her clothes! Which she has never done since we started training her as she has mostly gone unprompted from day one.

We have only in the last fortnight or so got her to mostly comply with 'just in case' wees so before and after sleep, before leaving the house, before leaving anywhere else to go home etc. Before that she would point blank refuse but now she seems to uderstand better and is generally compliant.

I think the little tiny accidents might be that she is practising how long she can hold for, as the frequency of her toileting has got a lot less than it was in the early weeks. Also a few of the tiny ones have been whilst she was tantrumming. But today, just sitting there playing and doing a huge wee all through her clothes then coming and telling me and then screaming and crying when I was trying to take her wet clothes off and then repeating this about two hours later?! I dunno what that is about at all and it is really stressing me out now that her last two wees have been like that. Be interested to see what she's like with her dad this PM whilst I'm out and if he takes her to the park and that.

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