Carry on or give up...

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My DS will be 2.5 in a few weeks & I'm 29 weeks pregnant. Thought this would be a great time to start potty training so I wouldn't have to tackle it along with a newborn at the same time. We tried a few months ago and he was VERY resistant to go crying "no potty" and hiding from it etc so we decided it was too early and to try again in a couple of months.... which brings us to now.

We started on Monday so we are on day 3 now- we have had very very limited success 3 pees on the potty that whole time and only when he has been placed on the potty he gives no indication he needs to go. Even when he dances around I will sit beside him on the potty for 10 mins + but then 9 times out of 10 when I think he doesn't need to go he will get off and pee on the floor two minutes later..
As far as poos he waited until he was down for a nap with a pull up on day one, didn't go day two and so far today is jus at saying no when I ask him if needs to go.

Basically not sure how much should have clicked by now or if I should persevere or not? He's so pleased with himself when he does go and he can tell me "pees and poos are in the potty, nappy's are for bed" so I think he does understand the concept. I just don't know if he's aware of the signals when he actually needs to go?

I’d give it a week maximum.

My first 2 kids were easy. But number 3 has tried 3 times, the last time for 10 weeks (he refused to put the nappy back on) with very little success. He’s now 3 and still in nappies. I was determined that eventually it would work but I’ve learnt my lesson now. Don’t push too hard. If you’re not making progress then I’d stop.

I'd probably stop if I were you. From what I've read, I think the risk is the withholding poo and getting constipated, which then makes them worried to poo as it might hurt.

I think if I were you I'd pack it in and try again in say 6-8 weeks or so. I think what you're looking for is progress, not something 'clicking' per se. Would you say he has made progress over the three days? If he's making progress, even if slow, it might be worth continuing but it doesn't sound like that to me?

I potty trained in a very gradual way. I gave a sticker to my DS whenever he sat on the potty and two if he also did a wee or poo on it. But I never made him go on the potty, I just asked him a few times in the day to let me know if he wanted to sit on the potty and re-explained the sticker reward. This was all while he still wore a nappy. So no pressure of dealing with accidents.

After about 2 or 3 weeks of this we went underpants shopping together and I let him choose some himself. I explained what they were for and I also read a book about a dinosaur using a potty. Once he was in underpants he had maybe 3 accidents in the first week.

I had read about the very strict approaches that claim to potty train within 3 days and i just knew that would put too much pressure on him. He learns in a more gradual way and since he's quite sensitive to people's feelings I knew it was important for me to remain calm throughout.

Whats your child's character like? I think its important to adapt whatever approach you try to suit what they are like.