day 4, right to give up?

[meow1989]

Ds was 2 in June and has been showing signs of readiness to potty train for a few weeks so we have given it a go. On day 1 we had about 7 accidents, 3 on day 2 then 3 yesterday, so he was doing really well, happy to go on potty or toilet, lots of praise and "never mind" if he had an accident.

But this morning he's really averse to it - crying and saying no when I try to get him to go, or if I ask if he needs a wee says no and does one on the floor. He's seemed stressed out this morning so dh and i thought maybe its too soon (aware he is very young) and have put a nappy back on, he's instantly calmer and happier (though wanted xhanging as soon as he did a poo).

Have we done the right thing? I know he is pretty young to train so I'm not stressed about that I just don't want to stop if what I should be doing is pushing it.

Oh , to add he is still having a day time nap so were putting nappy on for that.

Yeah I think it is best to leave it for now as you don't want him to have negative associations with it. Try again in a few months. A lot of times kids are okay weeing on the potty but don't like to poo on it so that could have been part of the reason if he needed a poo. Either way he is very young and I think you are right to go back to nappies for a bit.

He actually diesnt mind using the potty for a poo - he likes putting it down the toilet after and saying bye bye to it!!

But I don't want to fight him when he's still little.

I'd follow his lead and let him have the nappy on but leave the potty close in case he chooses to use it and lots of praise if he does. If he doesn't don't offer the potty just leave it in the room.

Not worth getting stressed over at all for either of you.

It's fine to stop. A lot of kids are much closer to 3 before they are ready. When they are ready it can be a lot easier

Definitely right to stop. It took a few goes with both of mine. You could keep doing poos on the potty if he likes doing that.

I would say you have had a really successful trial run. No need to stress him out if he's not feeling it. Gold star parenting.

Thanks all, its so easy to second guess yourself isn't it? A few people irl seem to think I should push it or stop "if that's what you want to do", but it's not about me I just don't want ds upset unnecessarily.
Will leave the potty out for if he wants it as suggested and otherwise not mention for a few weeks or months

I’ve never really got the thinking that once you start you shouldn’t stop. Doesn’t seem very child friendly. If they’re getting distressed it’s just not worth it.

If he likes pooing in it maybe you could just try and continue to gently encourage that alone? Obviously if he says no or doesn't want to then don't push it but I mean more to remind him that it's a possibility. As if he gets back in nappies he might sorta forget it's a possibility and you said he did like doing it. And much easier for you both in terms of clean up than soiled nappies!