Please help me I’m desperate with 3 year old regressing potty training

[mumoftwoinNI]

Hi all,

I’m about to have a breakdown because I’m so stressed I would really really appreciate some help and advice.

I have a 3yo daughter who we’ve tried to potty train a few times to no success. This time seemed to be off to a great start with her picking her own big girl pants and seat for the big toilet. The first 4 days were amazing she was telling me she needed to go and was going and was great she had done number 1s and 2s. Now suddenly she has been holding in her pee alllllll day.

At night time I’ve been putting a pull up on her and it seems she’s been holding in all day to she gets this on because in the morning it’s full heavy and then the cycle repeats. I’ve managed to get one pee from her today at 5pm - she was rewarded for doing it but she just doesn’t seem interested at all anymore and I feel like I’m at my wits end. Do I stop putting pull up on her at night time and see if she’ll handle it better if she’s in proper pants all the time?

Not really sure what to do!

I’m usually up in the night feeding my littlest boy (15 month old but wakes 3hourly for feeds 😅)

Sorry for long winded post I’m just desperate at this point.

Thanks for any help in advance x

Why is it so important she needs to do it right now? She’s clearly not ready. I would stop the pressure and try again in a month or two. Holding in a wee all day is unhealthy and can stretch her bladder. My son was similar so we Stopped tried again 3
Months later and was fine, he was about 3.8 by the time he ‘got it’. She may be sensing your stress and anxiety about it

I believe she is ready - she was able to tell me that she needed to go and go herself and go through the whole process and say what she was doing etc she only had one accident and the whole process was her leading it I’ve never been forceful with it at all i had tried previously and it was obvious she wasn’t ready whereas this time she seems very ready and aware it just seems to be a sudden regress that she is holding it now. Not sure if the pull-ups are whats maybe confusing for her and that’s why she holding it?! Not sure.

Hi ! My first time on this so apologise if I'm doing it wrong I'm wondering if theirs anyone out their in a similar situation to mine? I have 2 children age 8 and 11 and have just had the shock of my life finding out I'm 6 weeks pregnant . I didn't expect to be starting all over again at this stage in my life, my kids are my world but now their that bit older I couldn't initially see myself having any more, the age gap feels huge and frighterns me a little, I worry I'm letting my children down by turning their lives upside down but I think I'm suffering a bad case of mum guilt. I know this baby is a blessing and now the shock is easing I'm excited at the thought of getting to do it all again as I love being a mum . Would love to hear of anyone in a similar situation?

Update: she’s going again as normal today! Asking to go and going well! Not sure what changed overnight but she’s doing amazing again! 😁