Backwards step in potty training

[stepmumofgirls]

I’m new to Mumsnet and I’m just after some advice (thanks in advance)
My SD2 started potty training at the start of the year and we nailed no.1s, but kept having accidents with no.2s. It took until the end of March, but we sorted that.
Since May, we’ve taken a backwards step in it. She keeps wetting herself and doesn’t tell us. We only know if we see/fell it. She will still ask to go for a wee, but then she’ll have wet underwear so we have to change her. My OH picks her up from their DM to bring them our house, and she will scream and cry the whole 10 minute journey saying she needs a wee and we have to run her in the house when we get home. We always ask if she needs to go before we leave anywhere and she always says no. She knows when she’s wet herself because we ask her where she was when she had her accident and why didn’t she say needed the toilet.
She’s going through 10+ pairs of knickers a day so advice would be greatly appreciated!
We’ve tried telling her we’ll have to put her back in nappies (which she gets upset about and doesn’t want), we’ve tried being nice and calling it an accident, we’ve tried telling her off for it, but making no progress with it what so ever. Help please??

I have just come on here to write something similar asking for advice. Sorry I won't be able to offer any help but I just wanted to say I am in the same boat with my little one and to offer some moral support.

We potty trained our little boy a few months ago (just turned 3 years old). He did fine at first and took to it quickly. For the last few weeks he has completely regressed again. He wet himself six times today. It's like he has forgotten how to do it. It's so frustrating for us and for him.

I am going to speak to his key worker and possibly our health visitor to see if they can suggest anything. He doesn't want to go back in to nappies either but I am lost as to what to do

@user1497974897

I have just come on here to write something similar asking for advice. Sorry I won't be able to offer any help but I just wanted to say I am in the same boat with my little one and to offer some moral support.

We potty trained our little boy a few months ago (just turned 3 years old). He did fine at first and took to it quickly. For the last few weeks he has completely regressed again. He wet himself six times today. It's like he has forgotten how to do it. It's so frustrating for us and for him.

I am going to speak to his key worker and possibly our health visitor to see if they can suggest anything. He doesn't want to go back in to nappies either but I am lost as to what to do

I'm glad I'm not the only one! I don't know if it's a knock on effect of the whole lockdown thing, I really don't know. We've tried the books, reward charts, bribing, everything and just can't get anywhere

Don’t have the answers OP but the thing that strikes me is a classic mistake my husband makes
sometimes ...asking.
Before you get in the car, say right time for a wee and sit them on the potty. If they sit on the potty and don’t do anything then fine leave but LOs aren’t great at recognising they need to go until the last second.

I totally agree, I definitely get him to go much more when I just make it part of what we are doing, it isn't an option.

We also tried bribing and reward charts like you OP. I just read something that says that doesn't help as they need to learn to go naturally so they recognise the feeling rather than being bribed. I have a feeling our health visitor is just going to say keep trying. Looks like we need to waterproof the house!

Thanks both!
It helps to know I'm not alone in the battle.
I'll try not asking her and make her go instead, if that makes sense.
Just going to have to keep washing knickers all the time and hopefully this will blow over!

@OnlyFoolsnMothers

Don’t have the answers OP but the thing that strikes me is a classic mistake my husband makes sometimes ...asking. Before you get in the car, say right time for a wee and sit them on the potty. If they sit on the potty and don’t do anything then fine leave but LOs aren’t great at recognising they need to go until the last second.

Used this all morning and we've had no wet knickers! Just kept taking her off for a wee instead of asking and it's working. So so proud of her and I cried I got so emotional! Thanks so much xx

Oh fab!!! You‘ll clock roughly how long between each toilet break. I know if we go before leaving the house my LO can go a whole park trip without needing to go again. My husband asked her before he left the house last weekend and she said no, told him just to take her- “shockingly” started playing with her friends and wet herself

I started potty training my 2 year old in June but 6 weeks in he was going by himself which was great but he was going every 5 mins then wetting himself on my carpet and not telling me so I gave it a break for a bit was so drained and it was like he quickly became lazy, but as he starts nursery next month I'll try again with him but that idea is what I use to do with my eldest boy, don't ask just tell them it's time to go wee and it did work but any advice for pooing? I noticed my 2 year old was constipated for the whole 6 weeks and as soon as I put him back in pull ups he was pooing on schedule 2 poos a day, one after breakfast and one just before dinner.

Good luck everyone and I'm glad it's working out for you

@MumOfTwoBoyssss

I started potty training my 2 year old in June but 6 weeks in he was going by himself which was great but he was going every 5 mins then wetting himself on my carpet and not telling me so I gave it a break for a bit was so drained and it was like he quickly became lazy, but as he starts nursery next month I'll try again with him but that idea is what I use to do with my eldest boy, don't ask just tell them it's time to go wee and it did work but any advice for pooing? I noticed my 2 year old was constipated for the whole 6 weeks and as soon as I put him back in pull ups he was pooing on schedule 2 poos a day, one after breakfast and one just before dinner.

Good luck everyone and I'm glad it's working out for you

Hi!

We had a similar problems with poos with my SD2 for nearly the first 6 months of potty training. She wouldn't go in her knickers, and she'd get constipated and wouldn't go for days!
I know her mum gave her some child laxatives to make her go, because she was going days without going!
We just kept fighting it, going through lots of pairs of knickers with marks on! Lots of sticker charts and we found she would rather go on the toilet, than her potty so that might be worth a try?
She's just goes for poos now, it's wee's we've gone backwards on!
Good luck with your little one and sorry I've not got anymore advice 🙈

My little boy prefers the big toilet for poos and the potty for wees. No idea why! We also let him have his tablet when he goes to help relax and to get him to stay on there a bit longer. Thankfully we don't have issues with poos. Still some wee accidents but a lot less. We have stuck with just taking him to the toilet regularly and it has worked