Potty training my DS2 since June but..

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Hello everyone, just need a bit of advice, my DS2 is 2 years and 2 months old, I've been potty training him for about 6 weeks now, he goes potty (wees) by himself now but only when he's naked or has no bottoms on , he will have accidents if I was to put pant on him for example, as I'm trying to teach him to go whilst he has pants on (pulling pants down then going then pull them back up wash hands ect) but will fight it, he either hates it or just can't grasp the concept of it yet, he refuses to poo in the potty aswel, will poo somewhere else in the house and will let me know by showing me and saying "sorry mummy I'll clean it so sorry" bless him ! But my question is, should I leave it for a few weeks put him in pull ups again or should I keep going? I've noticed he's getting really good at weeing in potty, emptying it out into the big toilet, wiping it with tissue washing his hands but he'll do this naked, I want to move to wearing pant, pulling them down ect and pooingbis getting nowhere and he gets up set if he has to wait for it to come out or when I see him about to poo when he makes that face I say "do you need to go potty?" He'll say no but I know he does Sonu carry him there but he refuses to sit!!

Should I leave it or carry on? My DP wants to carry on but I'm actually stressing as I thought he'd grasp this by now

What should I do?
Thank you in advance xxxx

Personally I would leave it a while. I know summer seems a good time to get it done but he doesn't sound ready. It is so stressful when not going well, I remember those days! Go easy on yourself, and him, and give it a break.

It seems way too soon; when they're ready it clicks in a matter of days not weeks. You say DS2 - what did you do the first time around?

If it's taking that long, he isn't ready yet

Well you asked for opinions and here is mine. I think he is too young - I didn’t start potty training on my sons until they were between 2 1/2 and 2 3/4 - when they understood the concept. Then we did 4 days cold turkey, stayed at home and in garden, real pants only so they felt wet. Night time was done as soon as they had one week of night dry - for one son it was two weeks after he potty trained, for the other, he had just turned 3.

Please do not make an issue of it or get stressed. Our parents or grandparents potty trained early because they had to hand wash baby’s nappies - we do not have to do that so save yourself the stres.

My SIL “potty trained” her DS at one year - he really wasn’t fully trained until he was over 2, so that was a year of stress and pain just for bragging rights.

Listen to your gut instinct in how ready your child is. Good luck.

Try him with joggers and no pants as the next step - unless you’ve already tried that? He needs to get used to having something on but pants will likely feel similar to a nappy in terms of muscle memory etc.

Also, I’d recommend reading the book Oh Crap Potty Training. Lots of good advice in there for such issues.

Going back to pull ups now may confuse him, but if it’s stressing you out he’ll be picking up on this and it may not be helping.

He’s not ready.

Mine were nearer 3 and they pretty much did it themselves. Once nappies were regularly dry I asked if the needed a wee on the toilet, and offered a bribe.

That was it, done. No accidents, no pull ups, straight into pants.

I used to watch many mums at baby groups go through months of chasing their kid round with a potty, only for it to pee on the floor anyway. When there was a toilet seconds away. So i waited until they could hold it at least until they made the nearest toilet. Much easier.

I agree he doesn’t sound ready, but be careful about what you say. You know that ‘do you need to use the potty’ means that you can see he needs a poo but the connection might not be there yet for him. Maybe use clearer statements.

I'm having the same issue with poos - my 19m old has been wee trained for weeks but still 50/50 whether she will poo on the potty or go and hide under the kitchen table and do it there. Seems to be a privacy thing with her - if were out of the room or not looking she seems more likely to poo on the potty. We haven't found a solid solution yet other than exaggerated looking away when she goes so will be watching with interest to see if you do. Good luck! X

Thank you for all your replies, I think I'll leave it for a while I thought the was ready as he kept showing interest in the toilet and everytime he did a wee or poo he'd take his nappy off and show me but I guess hes just not really ready yet, I'm getting pressure from the mother in law but I seriously shouldn't listen to her to be fair.

With my DS1 he's autistic so he showed no interest at all, stayed in nappies untill he was 3, when he started going preschool we was advised to start potty training don't get me wrong we tried with him when he was 2 and a half but was over emotional about it would sit down, wet himself without realising or recognising he was or dirty, but he's 6 now and he's only just recently been fully toilet train over a year ago he's under a specialist nurse as he still wets the bed regularly

Oh another thing I forgot bro add is that DS2 goes wee in the potty every 10 mins which I thought was a bit too often shouldn't he be about to hold he for a couple hours? I guess hes just not ready mother in law just doesn't help (she tells my DP not me) so the pressure bis on him then that pressures me but I'm gonna leave the potty out still I won't put it away

I think you're expecting too much. I started training DD at 23 months - when you start that early it does take longer. Potty trained for a kid of that age means that they can tell you when they need to go, not that they can do the whole pants down, wiping, wash hands thing without interference. Pants sometimes cause an issue because they feel so similar to nappies. I'd carry on, personally, as you've done the hard bit, but let him go commando in loose fit trousers for now. There's a book called, 'Oh crap, potty training' which has a good troubleshooting section. Poo is often harder to crack.

I went with training earlier because, though it may be faster if you wait until they're 3/4/5/whatever, the impact of the extra disposables on the environment was something I couldn't stomach personally, just because it might be slightly less hassle for me. I guess if he's in reusables it doesn't matter as much (though kids in those do tend to train earlier anyway because they feel the wetness).

Good luck either way.

All children are different my DD1 was 22 months when out of nappies in the daytime her sister was a lot later. My grandson decided on his 3rd birthday he didn’t want to wear nappies any longer and was completely dry within a few days. Your little one isn’t quite ready, if the weather is nice let home run around without the nappy, he will let you know when he is ready.

@FourPlasticRings I do like your idea Actually, I did this with my DS1 but he was 3 years old and was able to hold in his wee for hours before he'd run to the toilet

Today I've actually had my DS2 in pull ups all day, he's only meantioned the potty when I changed him, he'd go and sit but won't do anything, I've decided to just leave it again (this is actually the second time I've tried but the 1st time I only did it with him for 3 days, gave up because he was going too often too many accidents in what felt like mins apart, this time it's the same just that he won't poo ect I get that it's early I'll probably wait untill I feel hes showing that he's fully ready.
Hey I don't expect lot from a 2 year old I'm just getting it in the ear from MIL "he has to be potty trained before he's this age and he should actually be potty trained by now what's taking so long? Omg you're still trying to potty train him and he's not progressing!?"

Yhh stuff like that really, I'm not listening to her any more but my instincts tell me now isn't the time, thank you for all your replies xxxx

@Herbie0987 yes I get what you mean, according bro my dad and mum I both me Nd my brother were potty trained at 18 months believe it or not, my parents couldn't afford out nappies, they both had rubbish paying jobs at the time so took us out of them, ( my brother first as he's older than me, my mum was still pregnant with me when he was potty training) then me 18 months later

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