Do we give up and go again in a few months?

[LaPufalina]

I've taken the week off to potty train DD2 (almost 23mo, same age as when DD1 trained) and she's really inconsistent. She can hold it for hours, can tell us "weewee" and give a physical indicator that she's about to go, but when we try to move her onto the potty she fights it and stands up then wees on the floor 20 seconds later. DH wants to give up and try again in October half term. I'm reluctant given the week I've wasted but she doesn't seem much further along than a week ago. She's due back in nursery on Monday. Any thoughts or similar experiences?

I am with your DH. Just because you took a week off work doesn't mean your DD is ready.

I know she took the potty into the hallway yesterday, announced "bye bye weewee" and closed the door

Personally I’d give up and try later in the year, for me with potty training if they don’t get it with a couple of days then it’s too early.
Especially as nursery won’t have the time to
Be cleaning her wee up everywhere!

I’m with your DH.

I would more or less give up but leave the potty out and keep giving opportunities for its use - before a bath,when she gets up etc - just ask if she needs a wee on the potty and leave it at that. Mine were much older to train though - 3 yrs and 1 month, so maybe your DD2 will just get it a bit later.

I would give up and try again later. When I tried potty training my son he did well for the first couple days (think it was the novelty) then he was having loads of accidents for the next few days. We gave up and tried again five months later and he had an accident a day for a week and was then potty trained. He was 2 years 10 months.

Hi there

This exact thing happened with my little one! She was (or seemed) SO ready, and did exactly what your girl is doing.

I was so reluctant to give up (my boy trained very early within 6 days) but I did. I left it for 3 months and wow, it was SO much easier when we tried it again! She was happy to do it this time and there were very little tears.

Thanks all. Feel happier about it now. Although DD1 trained in pretty much one morning, she'd been weeing on the potty before bath for a while before that so I'll use that tactic again.

Personally I’d try closer to 3 as I think it will save a lot of headaches to wait until your dc is maybe more ready. When they are ready they really do take to it quickly; with dc1 I tried around 2 and no joy, gave up and tried again closer to 3 and it only took a couple of days and hardly any accidents. I think there are a lot of people that will say oh my 18 month year old is potty trained but that consists of them holding their child over the toilet every time they think need a wee and running to catch the toilet.

You don't need to take time off work to potty train. Just have some bare bum time at the weekend to assess where she is. I'd not leave it till October, I'd try again in a months time. There is a lot of bullshit written about them getting confused if they are in and out of nappies but I never had a problem. In fact I strongly feel children learn nothing by being put in a situation where they wet themselves because they don't have full control. We (3DC, all PT at 2) would have bare bum time if at home but nappies if out and about and at nursery until they were reliable. Told nursery what we were doing and so they knew to suggest the potty but they didn't need to worry about accidents, they were very supportive of our approach.

@LaPufalina

I know she took the potty into the hallway yesterday, announced "bye bye weewee" and closed the door

I like her style!

Forgot to say as well another bonus of them being a little older is you may be able to skip the potty all together, with dc1 he went straight on to the toilet on his little seat and refused the potty altogether (no complaints from me)

Just sharing my experience - I tried to potty train my 3yo from about the same age. He would hold, hated the potty, refused to engage with it. I got very stressed out about it on a number of occasions because we never ever seemed to make progress. Finally, a week after his 3rd birthday, it clicked. He was fully trained within 48hours - at the end of day 2 all wees and poos on the potty. By day 3 he was dry through the night. We've had maybe a couple of accidents since then but nothing major. When she's ready, it will just work!

Thanks everyone, very useful to have your insights. Feeling much less smug about DD1 now