So upset over knickers

[mummytobabygirl17]

Hi all
I know it’s probably my fault but our dd started wearing the huggies pull ups when she first started potty training she’s doing so well. All wees through the day either one the potty and even asks to use the big toilet, after she’s gone to bed of a night if she wakes up she asks for the toilet.. but hates knickers. She gets so upset if I try to put them on her. She’s got ones with all her favourite characters I just don’t know what to do. When she goes back to nursery I don’t want her to go backwards as she’s doing so well.

Thanks

Does it matter? She can go to nursery in leggings or trousers. It will be fine. There is no law that says we have to wear underwear, it is just custom.

She won’t even let me put legging or trousers on without pull ups on.

I think I would try to get her used to them for short periods of time
So knickers for ten mins.. reward. Distract her. Obviously you only know your daughter. Also could try larger style or short style.

Well just don't worry about it for now explain to the nursery. It is probably a comfort thing.

Thank you @littleshortcake I will try that x

With my daughter I just put the pants in her drawer and left her to it. One day she decided by herself that she was ready to wear them. All kids are different, but I found letting her take control of the situation was best. Your daughter will get there when she is ready.

have you tried her in boys' pants?

NB - I do not have daughters. But I have heard from mums that do that girls' knickers are ridiculous. She might be more comfortable in the boys' ones, even if they don't have unicorns on

My DD was the same, I didn't push it and never made her wear them. In time she wanted to, and helped choose some with kittens on that she liked and no problems since. I think some kids just find potty training harder than others and you have to go slow and carefully if you don't want to cause issues.

My aunt told me my cousin hated knickers. Repeatedly refused them - it even got to the point she outgrew the first pack and aunt had to buy another pack for her. Then one day, out of the blue, cousin got out of the bath one evening and as my aunt went to put her pjs on said, "oh I suppose I better wear my pants now!" So aunt put them on and that was it! Never wore another nappy again. She has no idea what changed my cousin's mind. Btw, she told me this story as I'm currently potty training a reluctant 3yo, she wasn't just randomly over-sharing.

@mummytobabygirl17
It is all about what the girl knows and is comfortable with. Nappies and pull-ups are bulky, and is what the girl is used to. Knickers cause her legs to touch each other, and her not liking that is just a phase.

Have you gone through the phase where she wont eat certain food just cause to touched another on a plate?

Just give her the time, and let her stay in the pull-up training pants. There is no harm, and her potty training will not revert unless stress etc triggers it. She will eventually not want the bulk between her legs as she gets more active.

Try little boys pants or boxers. My daughter found them more comfy

We use Asda’s girls knickers shorts. There’s no elastic in them as my dd has eczema and the elastic was causing a reaction. They’re the knickers she still wears years later as they comfortable for her

If you think it is the bulky feeling of nappies that she’s missing, would it be worth considering buying some of the washable pull up pants? They will be bulkier than knickers (and feel more like a pull up than cotton knickers do) but you can wash them at the end of the day. Just thinking about the environmental impact of disposable pull ups if they’re not really needed!

Trying her in boys pants is a good idea too, or short style knickers if you can buy them that small.

I had the same problem with my DD (now 5). In the end I bought her boxer shorts and I haven't had a problem since. Obviously it could very well be a confidence issue instead but it might be worth a shot . Good luck!