Tips for training 21 month old?

[Laur89]

Hey, my DS is 21 months and for the past week or so he's been getting really good at doing wees in the potty and saying to us when he needs to go. I know 21 months, anyone have any tips for the potty training process etc? Thank you :)

Hi, That's great to hear! And before anyone says it's too early - it's not! If he's peeing in the potty and telling you when he needs to go, then it doesn't matter if he's not verbal or if he can't pull his trousers down/up or if he can't wash his hands independently. He will need help with all of this, of course. But potty training success is not dependant on this.

I highly recommend you get some guidance so it's successful, painless and enjoyable for the two of you. A lot of people here recommend the Oh Crap PT Book. I prefer the Tiny Potty Training Book (but it's only available on Kindle, unless you want to pay to ship from the US).

Let me know if you'd like more details.

Can I jump in and follow please, DS 21 months last Sunday sat down on his own On potty & weed when naked playing then grabbed a dog bowl for the next & his kitchen sink for the next so started training by oh crap.

Going well but massive tantrums in between (that’s not unusual) we’ve got to the trying to put bottoms on & has couple of accidents where he seems oblivious & couple of times he’s managed to get o the potty start pulling down & let me help him... but just had massive row with DH after he had another accident where DH (who is working all week so it’s just me) declares “he’s clearly too young boys don’t do it as soon as girls that’s what everyone at work tells me” not acknowledging the fact that he’s clearly got the principles, goes himself to the potty from playing & is getting the trousers sometimes. Surely if he knows that then that’s showing he knows & it’s us that need to help.

I’m at a loss & so demoralised I clearly don’t have his support & im the one isolating with a toddler throwing massive tantrums but also isn’t it working?

What to do if accidents keep coming with trousers on? How do you get past this bit

A couple of things I didn't mention in the other post - boys can do it at the same age as girls. The same "boys take longer" doesn't apply to other cultures who PT as early as 12 months.

It is NORMAL to have a few accidents . Think of it as learning to use a bicycle. Would you stop teaching because he fell off twice while sandals?

Give him more control of the process and relax. Accidents are part of the learning process. Only if he's having more pees on the floor than in the potty every day should it be a matter for concern. About tantrums - he's probably picking up on the stress and anxiety, so keep that as low as possible and trust that he'll get it right.
Good luck.

@nappyfree thanks though he tantrums when there’s no anxiety from me often it’s cause I’m there (& not DH) a for instance would be I go into the utility room, take out washing, he will help then I go to leave room & he wants to push me back in saying “no stay there” & shut the door on me inside & when I say no and come out he stands at the door stamping & bawling 🤷‍♀️
I just leave him to it now