Leaving it to the last minute

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Please help!

DD has been trained for close to 9 months now. The last couple of months she’s been leaving it very late to go to the toilet. Over the last couple of weeks it has got a lot worse and now she’s having wee accidents nearly every day. I can see she desperately needs to go as she’s hopping around etc. I ask her if she needs to and she says no or ignores me. Then 5 - 15 minutes later she’s running to the potty shouting wee wee. She doesn’t get there in time and there’s a bit of wee in her knickers, a lot or sometimes on the floor.

I have no idea how to tackle this as she never required any “training” in the first place - she just naturally started using the potty. I’ve tried offering her a little present if she stays dry all day but she’s not interested.

She doesn’t seem to care about the accidents.

Place marking.
How old is she?

She turns 3 next month

If you can see she needs to go, I wouldn't be asking, I'd say something like, 'I can see you need a wee, dd, come on, let's go'. And take her to the loo. At this age, there are a million things kids would rather do than go to the loo, and they underestimate their ability to hold it in. I'd try telling rather than asking and if she says she doesn't need to go, get her to go and just have a sit on the loo anyway. Lots of praise when she goes, every time.

Maybe she’s more feisty than other toddlers because if she’s not wanting to go to the toilet and I try anyway to take her she’ll get very angry and not cooperate.

I’m definitely going to be giving lots of praise when there’s no leaks.

Does she like Bing? You could watch the toilet train episode. If I see 'that look' on dd's face, I say "all aboard the toilet train, choo choo" and start herding her towards the toilet. It works most times.

We also saw a stranger's child in the playground wee all over (and I do mean all over) the wobbly bridge on the climbing frame, after which said child had to go home to change and was extremely upset. Sometimes I say - "do you remember the girl that weed on the wobbly bridge? That didn't look like much fun. You don't want that to happen to you, do you."

She's just 3. Recently she started having lots of brown accidents so after 4 pairs of knickers, I put a warm top on her and put the potty in the middle of the lounge and told her the only way to get her knickers/tights/etc back on was to make sure wee and poo went in the potty. It worked in a morning.

Those are good ideas! I read in Oh Crap to tell them to go to the potty rather than ask.
I've also downloaded games for playing on the potty only.