POO HELP!!

[themortgagemom]

Hi All,
First time poster here! I hope i am doing this right.

I need some help. My 3 YO is 4 in 5 weeks and we are having some major issues with her potty training.
She wears pants during the day and has no problem going for a wee on the toilet but she refuses to poo on the loo!
She has new become conditioned to only having a poo at night when her pull up nappy is on and I'm getting really worried that she is going to develop some kid of phobia of having a poo and she starts school in Sept.

I don't know how to fix this. Would anyone recommend just getting rid of the pull ups in the hope that she will just deal with (and prepare for lots of wet sheets and dirty pants in the meantime)?

The last thing i want to do is traumatise her so maybe i should wait until she is integrated into school life?

Any thoughts on this would be gratefully received!

Thank you :)

Following! Having some bother with a poo refuser too.

I think its quite a common thing.....my mom tells me i was the same. :)

I was in the same situation with my son. It took about six months of going in his pull up before he suddenly went in the toilet when we were out for lunch one day. I had tried bribery and just putting him in pants and neither worked. There was just some kind of phobia he needed to get over in his own time. I think it’s a common problem. How long has she been going in a pull up?

Babo
Did u just stop mentioning?

Remember night dryness is different entirely from day dryness. So no point giving yourself more work by not having nappies/pull ups for night.

She's been in the pull ups now for about 6 months. I keep talking to her about it but no joy.
Maybe i should just crack on with it as it is and wait for her to decide in her own mind to do it. Im sure once she's fully into school life she will make the decision without my input.

It was so much easier with my son, he nailed it in a week with no issues...
Funny how they are so different!

Yes I will think I stopped mentioning it and just let him go in the pull up. I think for the first month or so of potty training I tried to get him to go on the toilet but it was making him really upset.

I wouldn’t worry too much about school. If she’s used to going in the evening then she probably won’t need to poo at school. If you wanted, perhaps you could make her go in the pull up while sitting on the toilet, then she gets used to the idea?

Mine's 12 and your experience brings it all back. Deep breath.
Things that worked (eventually for us):
-she didn't poo at preschool aged 4) and , frankly, would put a nappy back on when she was picked up at lunchtime. My MIL picked her up and I decided it would just be simpler and less stressful.

• we put an open nappy on a potty and she got better used to sitting down to poo. Eventually.
• blowing big bubbles, real or imaginary, when sat on the loo/potty makes all the right muscles work.
• pretending to be caught in a huge imaginary bubble she had "blown" while sat on the loo/potty.
• I read on here about having a "poo party" which is basically making a fun situation out of having a poo.
• and for me, when she had gone to bed.

There is a "Poo goes to Poo Land" book. And ignore people who tut and say their child was potty trained aged 8 months or whatever. They'll do it when they're ready and your alcohol consumption (or whatever vice you have) will go down.

Thank you so much for the tip Belli!! Especially the wine when she is in bed! :)
Might try and get that book too!

Many Thanks

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