Unreasonably frustrated that DS won't poo in potty

[HappyAndYouKnowItGlugTheWine]

I feel like I'm far too emotionally invested in my son's potty training right now and need to rant!

So DS started potty training 6 weeks ago. He was already weeing on the potty before bath so we thought we'd give it a go. We followed the Oh Crap method. He got wees by the end of day 1 and would take himself off for a wee on the potty happily and still does. He's completely dry in the day including naps. He now wears pants etc.

He has only done 2 poos on the potty this whole time. First was a fluke I think in the first weekend, the second was basically when I caught him at as he was about to and put him on the potty and I think he just couldn't hold it in. He poos his pants every day. I'm beyond over this. I've tried Pooland, rewards, bribes, reading to him, blowing bubbles on the potty, having him bottomless again. Nothings worked. When he's bottomless he will hold it.

I'm tired of scraping poop out of pants and trousers. I'm stressed to go out with him in case he poos himself when we're out. I feel trapped in the house (not great since were in the middle of a renovation!). Basically, I feel like I've failed and whilst I don't show DS my annoyance or anything inside I'm so frustrated about the whole thing.

Any words of wisdom??

Well done. In case you needed reminding, this is why god invented

@HappyAndYouKnowItGlugTheWine can you please tell me if you had sucess with your pooping in the potty eventually? I am in the same position at week 3 here with my DS. He knows when he needs to poo, the first week manged a couple in the potty but is now just doing them all in his pants. Wee's are fine, but he just seems to not want to go to the potty for a poo. He will do a bit in his pants and then stop, we smell it and then tell him it would really be better if he poo'd in the potty and clean him up. This goes on about 2/3 times a day as he is only pooing a small amount each time, instead of one or two big poos. Am also getting quite tired of scraping poopy pants!

Maybe if you take him out and he poos, the cleaning him in the park , or wherever, can be made to be a big faff , people passing etc so he gets why you don't want to poo in your pants and why it's better to poo in private.

Happyandyouknowit here - sorry I NC a while ago!

Yep from when I last messaged to say he'd pooped in the potty it's been totally fine. Hang in there. It'll happen. Having said that, the only thing that worked with my DS was a see-through box filled with prizes (peppa pig toys and cars and diggers!). He knew he'd get a prize for a poo and because the toys were the ones I knew he would absolutely love it just worked. The incentive was enough. Before then we'd used chocolates or bubbles and stuff as prizes but it just wasn't good enough for him! Needless to say we're now a few months down the line and all is fine and we don't still give prizes!! He just sort of forgot about the prize thing as we all became used to him doing poo in the potty and it was no longer such a big deal. It will get better!

@MadamGrumpsalot thanks for replying. I think as it's a holiday weekend we are going to go back to bare bottom, as when we did this at the beginning he did seem to mind where he pooped. Now he just seems ok with pooping in his pants, which is not ideal of course. It's good to hear you got there in the end, I know it's just another stage that we have to go through but wow, I never knew scraping poo and potty training would be so stressful!!