My 3 year old doesnt seem to care about wetting herself!

[Bambi84]

Hi, this is the first time I've ever posted on a forum but I'm just at my wits end and don't know what else to do😕

My daughter is currently 3 years 5 months and we started potty training when she was around 2 as she seemed interested. We did the whole sticker chart approach and she seemed to get it but never had a proper dry day. After doing this for about 6 months things started to go down hill again and we were having constant accidents and refusing to use the potty or toilet. We decided to revert back to nappies as didn't want to force her. We then waited about a month and tried again with her, this time using sweets as a reward, and general praise as always when she used the toilet or potty. This has been going well but we still have never had a more than a couple of days where she has been dry. At pre school the teachers say she runs off and uses the toilet but still has accidents which I expect to happen what with all the distractions! Up until about two weeks ago things were getting alot better and she was coming home dry from pre school, still not 100% at home though. But now she has reverted back to having constant accidents and not even caring that she's completely drenched in wee. Sometimes she will say "mummy I think I've weed myself" , but most of the time she doesn't seem bothered and just sits around wet. It's so frustrating as I know she knows how to do it! She go's for no 2s on toilet no problem! Nowadays if I ask her if she needs a wee she says no. And the only way to get her to go is to sit her on it kicking and screaming which I know isn't helping! I've literally tried everything. Shes been bottomless around the house, left alone to do it on her own accord, praised for good ignored for bad... But its all the same result. Wet trousers or puddles. 😔

I really don't want to revert back to nappies again as I feel this will just confuse her more.

Has anyone else experienced similar and had any success with something?Any advice will be greatly appreciated! 🙏🏻Xxx

We’ve had similar to be honest, 4 days completely dry then 4 days of wet knickers constantly, then dry again yesterday. It’s proved to me that she can stay dry, there’s no medical reason why she can’t, it’s just her attitude that needs to change. It’s like going to the toilet isn’t a priority compared to whatever else she is doing. Just got to stay positive and think that they have to get the hang of this one day. Surely?!

I have had the same as you a period of dry pants then recently my daughter had a late night due to a family birthday and getting a cold and then we've taken a step back with wet pants. I know she can do it but my frustration is beyond belief xx

Probably and unconventional method but with ds when we potty trained him and he did the same. He wouldn’t care about wetting himself he would laugh and pee in the worst places. It just to make me feel so shit having to clean up after him every day. I took him to the dr’s ruled out anything there and he was all clear. I then bought a pack of nappies and put him back in nappies the same brand as his younger sisters and it sounds bad but i emphasised about him being in nappies like his sister and within a day he wanted to use the toilet. Sometimes you got to be cruel to be kind.

Looking for advice please. First time I have posted here. My only son is almost 3 and a half and we started potty training about 4 months ago when he started showing an interest. He now goes to nursery 4 mornings a week and he uses his potty in our house without any issue. He now tells us he needs to pee and does pees and poops. He isn't keen on using toilet but we didn't want to push him. Big problem we now have is that he refuses to use a potty at his grandparents and aunt's house. They collect him from nursery at lunchtime and he won't use potties. He wriggles around in afternoon so we know he needs to pee after 6-8 hours since his last pee in the morning but usually pees his trousers and doesn't seem to want to admit he needs it. Also if any family or friends visit our house he won't use either potty in house - both downstairs and upstairs so it's as if he is scared or embarrassed to pee in front of anyone except his dad or I. We can't think of anything that's happened to put him off but no amount of bribery or encouraging helps and while he has had a lot of wet pants that I've even kept on longer doesn't seem to bother him. Any tips on how we tackle this would be amazing as I feel going back to nappies wrong after so many months wearing big boy pants. He seems to regressing and we don't know how to stop it, Thanks