Refusing to use the potty / toilet - what to do?

[ByeByeTrain]

DS is 3 at the end of the month. Today is day 4 of potty training and he hates the potty and the toilet and refuses to use them. The last three days I've watched him like a hawk put him on the potty as soon as he starts to wee. He's now wised up to this and today held on and held on until my back was turned (ironically, I went to the loo) and weed on the carpet. This happened three times and I'm now at a bit of a loss.

So, he knows what to do, he's obviously got great control because he can hold it until I've gone, but he just doesn't want to wee on the potty or the loo.

Things that we've tried:

• praise - not bothered, just wants to get off the potty
• bribery - stickers, chocolate , videos, the promise of a paw patrol toy. Again, not interested.
• trying to get him to have a try - he refuses and says he doesn't need to go
• telling him where the potty is and to have a go by himself when he wants to.

So, what do I do now? I feel like I've basically taught him to wee on the floor! The only thing I can think of is that its this specific potty, which he said was "a bit too small for me" when it arrives and too be fair he doesn't look very comfortable on it. I'm going to but a bigger one.

I'd really appreciate some advice!

Don't push it really, you'll end up making him scared of it. He prob isn't jut ready yet, stick him in pull ups for now and leave the potty out then when he is ready he will use it. X

If you think he doesn't like the wee going in the potty, you could try putting an open nappy in the base of the potty (like a liner) and seeing if he will wee that way: my SIL had to do that with one of hers as he really didn't like the wee not to be in the nappy.

Stop altogether.

Put the stuff away and say to him when he is ready to use the big boy toilet you will get it out again for him

Thank you for the replies. We're going to leave it for a few weeks and see if he's any more enthusiastic. It's just frustrating because he obviously can do It, just doesn't want to, but there's no point getting into a battle of wills over it.

If he doesn't like the potty try the ones that look like a toilet. We had the fisher price one and i felt it better than the potty which was too small.
And as others said just stop and leave it. My son is stubborn and we had this problem, when we stopped asking and he saw his cousin and friends going he decided to try. But if we asked. Nope.

I used to put toilet paper and little tissue balls in the toilet and get him to try and pee on them and pretend to be firehouse. Still works today when he refuses to go before a car journey...