Wits end! Where to go from here?

[cremedecacao]

I have HAD IT with pt my 29 month old.

Background: we started pt 6 weeks ago as she is almost always dry at night and for long periods during the day.

If I know she needs to go and she is feeling complient she will sit on the potty and pee on command. If I don’t, she will happily pee or poo in knickers/on the floor. Same story in public.

We just aren’t making any real progress. She doesn’t tell me when she needs to go and doesn’t take herself to the potty, after six WEEKS. Is this normal?

She says she wants pants and not nappies, and totally gets that she should wee/poo on the potty. She sometimes tries to clean up her puddles on her own so I know she knows she shouldn’t wee on the floor, but she does. All the time.

Is it possible that she doesn’t know she needs to go even though she is dry all night and for hours during the day?

I feel that giving up sends the wrong message but also this is totally taking over my life. I’m on constant potty watch and I’m forever cleaning and washing.

We started with the ‘Oh Crap!’ Method but are now just telling her to pee when we know she does and sitting her on the potty before we leave the house, when we come home etc.

Will we EVER make progress?! 6 weeks feels like forever.

Could you go back to bare bum again for a few days and see if the lack of pants helps to act as a reminder? Also if it's warm then give her lots of water so she can be used to the full bladder feeling meaning she needs to go for a wee?

Tried barebum and it was no different really. More liquids just seem to lead to more accidents but I might keep trying that one. She holds wee better when we are out and about funnily enough.

What exactly do you do when she wees on the floor? From facial expression to words and actions?

I try to say “oh, you’ve done a wee, wees go in the potty” with as neutral a face as I can muster. Sometimes I get frustrated though as she’ll wee just after I have asked her etc. But generally we have been good at quickly cleaning it up without too much fuss.

I would go back to pull ups.i tried with my eldest at 2.5. Gave up after a couple of weeks. Tried again a few mths later and it took a day

How did you do that? Did you stop mentioning the potty at all? I feel like she would find this weird as it has been such a hot topic of conversation. I did actually go
back to pull ups for two days but she asked for pants...

Just leave it for a few months and start again then. She is not ready.

I would have said that too. BUT she is dry all night long, and wants to wear pants. The HV said to carry on so I feel very torn and unsure what the best thing for her is.

Pull ups. I think i said she could use the potty if she wanted but would try pants again in a little while.